[Traditional Enneagram] If I'm enneagram type 3 does it mean I am the best

[Kanra Jest]

One of the best adapters I would assume, but just because you have a specific strength doesn't mean you don't have a clear weakness... which is where the others come in to have that strength in of themselves.

They balance out.

 

[small.wonder]

... God damn it that means that as a 3w4 I have to stand out too. People would question my type and subject me to scrutiny.

Also "standing out by being different" is totally the 3w4 mantra, motto, core essence, isn't it?

Such fascinating sarcasm, but really I must comment (taking things far too seriously, as a 4w5 would). In my experience, 3w4 doesn't desire to stand out to be different, they like to stand above to be different.

Now to the OP, [MENTION=29947]Mechnick[/MENTION]: I've encountered so many freaking 3's in my life, vast majority of which need serious help. I've had to ride the rollercoaster of seeing through their "Really, I'm the best" masks (my Dad is a 3, so this started young), to see the true lack of identity and self worth beneath. The former has caused me to simply withhold approval in general, making myself (usually) the only person in the 3's life that won't pat their head for material wealth or "knowing" people. On the other hand, acknowledging their brokenness underneath has over time forced me to see the tortured children many of them were forced to be-- truly believing that their little lives had no value, and they would not earn love, unless they were to win at everything. That's tragic!

I met the healthiest 3 I ever have, in a prison. To some extent, finding value in failure is the key to a 3 truly being the best. Otherwise, they are just good liars, who first believed the lie that they cannot be loved without cultural approval.

 

[Virtual ghost]

Ehhh ... actually it is more like: your parents didn't love you all that much or they blackmailed you that you have to be like them or very financially successful in order to be loved.

 

[Mechnick]

No.

I like you magpie.

 

[Kierva]

I like you magpie.

She's awesome. She's basically an undead banshee, and she has already possessed you.

 

[Mechnick]

Thank you, I knew I'm the best

 

[Mechnick]

Seriously. Us Ns have to stick together.

Damn sure, I dont understand damn Sensors at all.

As a fellow Three, I need to give you a reality check.

Yes, yes it does. It does mean that.

And green is the best color, since it's my favorite, and so you even have that down pat.

Thank you.

Yea, as a w3 I'm pretty damn good, but 3s are the best.

Sure, I like the people who are honest to themselves.

Yes, this is clearly how the enneagram system works.

I knew it

Ehhh ... actually it is more like: your parents didn't love you all that much or they blackmailed you that you have to be like them or very financially successful in order to be loved.

It certanly can be true, and it does ring a bell,

 

[Mechnick]

Such fascinating sarcasm, but really I must comment (taking things far too seriously, as a 4w5 would). In my experience, 3w4 doesn't desire to stand out to be different, they like to stand above to be different.

Now to the OP, @<a href="http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/members/29947.html" target="_blank">Mechnick</a>: I've encountered so many freaking 3's in my life, vast majority of which need serious help. I've had to ride the rollercoaster of seeing through their "Really, I'm the best" masks (my Dad is a 3, so this started young), to see the true lack of identity and self worth beneath. The former has caused me to simply withhold approval in general, making myself (usually) the only person in the 3's life that won't pat their head for material wealth or "knowing" people. On the other hand, acknowledging their brokenness underneath has over time forced me to see the tortured children many of them were forced to be-- truly believing that their little lives had no value, and they would not earn love, unless they were to win at everything. That's tragic!

I met the healthiest 3 I ever have, in a prison. To some extent, finding value in failure is the key to a 3 truly being the best. Otherwise, they are just good liars, who first believed the lie that they cannot be loved without cultural approval.

Do you like me less now when you know we are not perfect, and we are not all going to be a Hollywood stars.

In fact, I'm a creep

 

[Hiraeth]

Damn sure, I dont understand damn Sensors at all.

Well, I don't understand sensors or intuitives.

#foreveralone

 

[solpi]

No, I'm better than you at some things. Some of those things include typology, World of Warcraft and sassing people out.

lmao i love this

 

[Obfuscate]

Seriously. Us Ns have to stick together.

Weren't you an S until ... 6 hours ago ?

as a sidenote, you "are" s now...

 

[magpie]

as a sidenote, you "are" s now...