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I'm an ISFP and I'm starting to think that my core type is actually a 6w5 instead of a 9. I'm quite different than my ex-husband who was an ISFP 9.
I do come across more intellectual, and I am more concerned about things than he ever was.
I've noticed I'm extremely protective of anyone weaker than me....and I care a lot about what people think of me...much more than the INFP 4 or ISFP 9 that I know. I remember asking my ex-husband, the ISFP 9, if someone broke in, if he would kill to protect his family, and he said he wouldn't. I would do anything to protect my family....so his answer made me feel scared that he wouldn't be there for his family if they needed them.
Someone once asked if I was a cop because I must have been giving off a certain "energy".....thought it was a weird question since I'm not really as assertive or aggressive as I sometimes come across. I don't ever like telling people what to do...and I HATE confrontation.
I went to a concert one time with my girlfriend and immediately made note of the exits in case we needed to escape, and was a little concerned with the mezzanine collapsing, so I was alert to any flexibility in the floor when the crowd began dancing.
When I was in the crowd with her, a guy was acting a little unpredictable and getting into people's personal space when he was dancing. I'm not sure why but I felt myself puffing up like a bird, trying to make myself look bigger and more intimidating and thinking how if that guy messed with my girlfriend, I would get into a fight in order to protect her. I was preparing for it. She was really annoyed by my behavior...but it was just a reflex. I was the same way with the men my mom would date....I was so protective of her. If someone messed with my sister or brothers, I would go after them...I didn't feel the same way about myself for some reason.
I'm not a violent person though...I just get that way with people that I feel like I need to protect. I even used to lift really heavy weights because I thought it would make me appear tougher and less likely to mess with. And I figured if I did get into an altercation, I'd be more likely to be able to win.
I have no skill with Fe though. My intelligence has no skill when it comes to interpersonal communication like Fe people do.
However, when I would go out with my INFP 4 ex, I was the one people naturally gravitated to...and I could integrate within a group pretty well... taking on chameleon like qualities to avoid causing any problems. I try to ingratiate myself to others so they will know I'm not a threat and I don't draw "aggro".
I'm extremely good at problem-solving and being prepared in case of emergency situations. I remain calm in an emergency and just do what needs to be done. Often, I think ahead of problems so that I can know how to prevent them from ever happening in the first place.
I'm pretty serious most of the time....at least out in public or with people I don't know well. Once I feel comfortable around someone, and I feel safe to be myself, then they get to see the really goofy me that is at the core.
My ingratiating style of relating to people is a big reason why my INFP ex thinks I'm an INFJ that uses Fe. And I tend to appear very thinkerish to people who may not know me well.
It just seems like 6w5 is more the domain of IJ's..and being a Feeler, could make me look like an Fe user even if I'm not.
What do you think?
I do come across more intellectual, and I am more concerned about things than he ever was.
I've noticed I'm extremely protective of anyone weaker than me....and I care a lot about what people think of me...much more than the INFP 4 or ISFP 9 that I know. I remember asking my ex-husband, the ISFP 9, if someone broke in, if he would kill to protect his family, and he said he wouldn't. I would do anything to protect my family....so his answer made me feel scared that he wouldn't be there for his family if they needed them.
Someone once asked if I was a cop because I must have been giving off a certain "energy".....thought it was a weird question since I'm not really as assertive or aggressive as I sometimes come across. I don't ever like telling people what to do...and I HATE confrontation.
I went to a concert one time with my girlfriend and immediately made note of the exits in case we needed to escape, and was a little concerned with the mezzanine collapsing, so I was alert to any flexibility in the floor when the crowd began dancing.
When I was in the crowd with her, a guy was acting a little unpredictable and getting into people's personal space when he was dancing. I'm not sure why but I felt myself puffing up like a bird, trying to make myself look bigger and more intimidating and thinking how if that guy messed with my girlfriend, I would get into a fight in order to protect her. I was preparing for it. She was really annoyed by my behavior...but it was just a reflex. I was the same way with the men my mom would date....I was so protective of her. If someone messed with my sister or brothers, I would go after them...I didn't feel the same way about myself for some reason.
I'm not a violent person though...I just get that way with people that I feel like I need to protect. I even used to lift really heavy weights because I thought it would make me appear tougher and less likely to mess with. And I figured if I did get into an altercation, I'd be more likely to be able to win.
I have no skill with Fe though. My intelligence has no skill when it comes to interpersonal communication like Fe people do.
However, when I would go out with my INFP 4 ex, I was the one people naturally gravitated to...and I could integrate within a group pretty well... taking on chameleon like qualities to avoid causing any problems. I try to ingratiate myself to others so they will know I'm not a threat and I don't draw "aggro".
I'm extremely good at problem-solving and being prepared in case of emergency situations. I remain calm in an emergency and just do what needs to be done. Often, I think ahead of problems so that I can know how to prevent them from ever happening in the first place.
I'm pretty serious most of the time....at least out in public or with people I don't know well. Once I feel comfortable around someone, and I feel safe to be myself, then they get to see the really goofy me that is at the core.
My ingratiating style of relating to people is a big reason why my INFP ex thinks I'm an INFJ that uses Fe. And I tend to appear very thinkerish to people who may not know me well.
It just seems like 6w5 is more the domain of IJ's..and being a Feeler, could make me look like an Fe user even if I'm not.
What do you think?
