8 vs 4

[rifeh]

Was wondering, how a relation would be between and ENFP enneagram 4 and an ISTJ 8

(if this thread is not where it should be please redirect me)

 

[Gen]

Hahahaha! My mother is an INFJ (I think) 4 and my sister is an ESTJ 8. Its not very nice at all. My sister runs right over my mother, just because she can. I would suggest its only a good idea if both individuals are older and mature.

 

[rifeh]

i am the ENFP 4 the guy i love is a 100% ISTJ 8

and while i m amazed by his caracter i can t stand the fact that he s that cold

i have the feeling that i m the one who s fighting for this relation, and i m getting real tired

 

[Gen]

Move on, I think. Find someone who makes you feel appreciated. Its important for everyone but even more so for ENFP's and 4's.

 

[rifeh]

I concidered that so many time, but it s like i m so dependent on him.. you know I ve never been treated that low, he gets agressive sometimes in a way that scares the sh*t out of me, but thani ve never felt that protected or inspired by some one that way before him.
what kills me is that he s trying to make me become just like him! i know i m not perfect but for me to ignore my feelings is just impossible.

 

[mlittrell]

I'm sure your aware of this, im just stating it for the sheer fact it hasn't been mentioned yet. ENFP's can't and shouldn't be confined to one type...in fact, ENFPs tend to be a good 5 out of the 9 types. I'm a 9w3 for example.

As far as the question is concerned...the enneagram is wonderful for explaining peoples motives, whereas MBTI is great for explaining the person for who they are.

 

[rifeh]

I'm sure your aware of this, im just stating it for the sheer fact it hasn't been mentioned yet. ENFP's can't and shouldn't be confined to one type...in fact, ENFPs tend to be a good 5 out of the 9 types. I'm a 9w3 for example.

As far as the question is concerned...the enneagram is wonderful for explaining peoples motives, whereas MBTI is great for explaining the person for who they are.

so if i understand well!!! it s like MBTI is for the nature of a person, while enneagrams concerns behavior?

 

[mlittrell]

thats they way i see it, very well put btw