OrangeAppled
Sugar Hiccup
- Joined
- Mar 20, 2009
- Messages
- 7,626
- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Do these hold true for you? If so, how have you overcome these tendencies in your relationships (or how did they get in the way)?
Type One
What they look for
Shared purpose and values, equality, fairness, integrity.
What gets in the way
Insisting on being right at the expense of their connection with the other. Manipulates by correcting others—and by playing on their sense of guilt and inadequacy.
Type Two
What they look for
Emotional connection, intimacy, warmth, affection.
What gets in the way
Insisting on exclusivity and ever more closeness. Manipulates by finding out others' needs and desires and by creating secret dependencies.
Type Three
What they look for
Social suitability, competence, admirability, attractiveness.
What gets in the way
Insisting on career and social status before the relationship. Manipulates by charming others and by adopting whatever image will work.
Type Four
What they look for
Communication, listening, acceptance, emotional honesty.
What gets in the way
Insisting on having all of their emotional needs met immediately. Manipulates by being temperamental and making others walk on eggshells.
Type Five
What they look for
Curiosity, intensity, involvement, non-intrusiveness.
What gets in the way
Insisting on personal space and non-interference. Manipulates by staying preoccupied with ideas and projects and by detaching emotionally from others.
Type Six
What they look for
Commitment, dependability, shared values, solidity.
What gets in the way
Self-doubt and reactivity: vacillating between need for closeness and need for distance. Manipulates by complaining and by testing others' commitment to them.
Type Seven
What they look for
Stimulation, adventure, excitement, variety.
What gets in the way
Insisting on postponing making commitments. Manipulates by staying upbeat and hyperactive and by insisting that others meet their demands for gratification.
Type Eight
What they look for
Dependability, loyalty, strength, sexual compatibility.
What gets in the way
Insisting on maintaining control of others. Manipulates by dominating others and by demanding that others do as they say.
Type Nine
What they look for
Comfort, peace, harmony, stability.
What gets in the way
Insisting on not acknowledging problems and remaining neutral in conflicts. Manipulates by "checking out" and by passive-aggressively resisting others.
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Type One
What they look for
Shared purpose and values, equality, fairness, integrity.
What gets in the way
Insisting on being right at the expense of their connection with the other. Manipulates by correcting others—and by playing on their sense of guilt and inadequacy.
Type Two
What they look for
Emotional connection, intimacy, warmth, affection.
What gets in the way
Insisting on exclusivity and ever more closeness. Manipulates by finding out others' needs and desires and by creating secret dependencies.
Type Three
What they look for
Social suitability, competence, admirability, attractiveness.
What gets in the way
Insisting on career and social status before the relationship. Manipulates by charming others and by adopting whatever image will work.
Type Four
What they look for
Communication, listening, acceptance, emotional honesty.
What gets in the way
Insisting on having all of their emotional needs met immediately. Manipulates by being temperamental and making others walk on eggshells.
Type Five
What they look for
Curiosity, intensity, involvement, non-intrusiveness.
What gets in the way
Insisting on personal space and non-interference. Manipulates by staying preoccupied with ideas and projects and by detaching emotionally from others.
Type Six
What they look for
Commitment, dependability, shared values, solidity.
What gets in the way
Self-doubt and reactivity: vacillating between need for closeness and need for distance. Manipulates by complaining and by testing others' commitment to them.
Type Seven
What they look for
Stimulation, adventure, excitement, variety.
What gets in the way
Insisting on postponing making commitments. Manipulates by staying upbeat and hyperactive and by insisting that others meet their demands for gratification.
Type Eight
What they look for
Dependability, loyalty, strength, sexual compatibility.
What gets in the way
Insisting on maintaining control of others. Manipulates by dominating others and by demanding that others do as they say.
Type Nine
What they look for
Comfort, peace, harmony, stability.
What gets in the way
Insisting on not acknowledging problems and remaining neutral in conflicts. Manipulates by "checking out" and by passive-aggressively resisting others.
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