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[Traditional Enneagram] Enneagram Money Habits Article

ceecee

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“If you don’t take control of your relationship with money, it will take control of you.”

I think that's very accurate, not only for 8's where I found this quote but for all types. For 8's I can see money being a difficulty because it can be seen as a "control" mechanism. But it's not and doesn't have to feel that way. I'm glad I got over my negative money issues a long time ago and when you're in a relationship it better be a working relationship when it comes to money or it will likely become a problem. Another issue is secrecy with money and money matters. Not just in a relationship but with children and teaching them to have a healthy view of finances and how to handle money.
 

Zhaylin

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Very interesting.
"... I began doing what most all unhealthy 9’s: I sank into my turtle shell and ignored it.”

rofl. That is SO true of most things in my life. I have a really awesome ability to tune things out to an incredible degree :rotfl:

I used to absolutely LOVE a show called Monk. He had severe OCD. One day, his assistant rescued a monkey that was going to be "put down". She stole the monkey and hid it at her bosses house (the one with OCD).
The camera showed him walking through his home, with a happy/sort of disconnected look on his face. He was going through all his usual motions... then you notice the condition of the house- pictures sideways on the wall or on the floor, trash everywhere, food strewn about, the monkey dangling on a kitchen cabinet :rofl1:
Seeing that hit me HARD. I burst out laughing and exclaiming "that's ME!!!".

Thanks for the link. Great article.
 

NatureChaser

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Not a core One, not even in my tritype, but I relate to this from Ones the most

“I’ve taken on the sense that money can really be a tool for positive things: freedom, choices, independence, adventure, and positive impact in the world.”

“If I’m going to spend money on something — like going out for dinner or clothes or coffee — I will only spend it on something I REALLY want. I won’t spend it on something that’s part-way satisfying.”

“I judge myself for money behaviors. I always think I’m behind where I ‘should’ be and that my friends are better off and have done it right, and I haven’t. I always think I should be saving more, investing better, etc.”

I'm a One when it comes to money then. I don't really relate to Six on the article. It's fine anyway because at least I'm not a core One.
 

Snow as White

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I am so terrible about letting my emotions sway purchases. My bf is much better at being able to compartmentalize himself with money things and has set up a russian doll set up of nesting protective checks so that he doesn't spend more than he wants to... whereas I seem to fly primarily by the ass of my seat and the whim of the moment.

me: i am going to stick to my budget this month.
also me: this item is so beautiful i must have it.
 

ceecee

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Not a core One, not even in my tritype, but I relate to this from Ones the most

“I’ve taken on the sense that money can really be a tool for positive things: freedom, choices, independence, adventure, and positive impact in the world.”

“If I’m going to spend money on something — like going out for dinner or clothes or coffee — I will only spend it on something I REALLY want. I won’t spend it on something that’s part-way satisfying.”

“I judge myself for money behaviors. I always think I’m behind where I ‘should’ be and that my friends are better off and have done it right, and I haven’t. I always think I should be saving more, investing better, etc.”

I'm a One when it comes to money then. I don't really relate to Six on the article. It's fine anyway because at least I'm not a core One.

The only person I know that is a 1 and how they felt about money was that he was really terrified of it, so he ignored it. I don't know if it was because he couldn't do it perfectly, like the article says or had a traumatic experience but it was fairly unhealthy.
 

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I am so terrible about letting my emotions sway purchases. My bf is much better at being able to compartmentalize himself with money things and has set up a russian doll set up of nesting protective checks so that he doesn't spend more than he wants to... whereas I seem to fly primarily by the ass of my seat and the whim of the moment.

me: i am going to stick to my budget this month.
also me: this item is so beautiful i must have it.
Have you tried the delaying tactic approach? As in: give yourself a waiting period, anything from 24 hours to a week or so, and if you still feel that way, then buy it. This can give at least the most transient emotional reactions time to dissipate or be tempered by other considerations, without feeling like an outright denial to yourself.
 

Snow as White

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Have you tried the delaying tactic approach? As in: give yourself a waiting period, anything from 24 hours to a week or so, and if you still feel that way, then buy it. This can give at least the most transient emotional reactions time to dissipate or be tempered by other considerations, without feeling like an outright denial to yourself.

I actually do try to employ this and I have semi success with it... it's almost like the more certain I am going to buy something the more ok I am with putting it off. Whereas smaller things it's harder to say no to in the moment of "oh i must have you."

my main issue is Amazon really. The joy of discovery plus the joy of anticipation plus the joy of getting the item = too much to say no to. :)

I've been trying to do more visualizations this year with visualizing my goals. That helps somewhat... but when I am stressed I fall back into my comfortable bad habitry.
 
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