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    So a while ago, I posted about how I think I'm unemployable.

    To an extent, I think I am still.

    But I have a bit more confidence in myself that comes from sheer will to believe I can do something, not actual improved self-esteem.

    Anyway, I was wondering: if I list out some typical problems that come up in my job, and some strengths I have, would any of you be able to recommend a career (or even just a starter job) based on that? It might be a tall order, but even with my continued introspection, my ability to extrapolate is nil.

    So, without further ado:

    • I can be kind of ditzy. I've had managers tell me, "What do you need glasses for? They obviously don't help you see." Why? It could be because I have a low tolerance for not finding things quickly, but I always miss out on things that should be obvious to me (whether I'm looking at a physical object or talking about some subject). It's like I'm a baby without object permanence, and people don't tend to be forgiving of that. I often start talking about a subject, try to interweave multiple lines of thought, and lose myself along the way. I think even my parents, who tend to be kinder, wonder why I can't string sentences together. I know what I want to say in my mind, but the words just won't come out. It could be because at times I'm trying to be more tactful than I usually am, and it just comes out in a jumble. I'm a stickler for word choice.

    • I'm not fond of chaos and I really love systems I can attach to. Right now one of my jobs is cashiering and I work with people that really like to cater to the customer, so they're constantly flipping their own rules to accommodate one soccer mom. I often make fun of myself, even as I get frustrated: when this happens, my mind tries to rationalize why this decision makes sense so it doesn't clang against any moral or logical judgments in the future, but oftentimes it just fails to adhere to a perfect logical order so I have a messy idea in my mind that fits all these exceptions. When I'm alone and have to deal with customers by myself, there's often "computer says no" moments where I don't know what would be the most fair way to handle a bad purchase or an expired coupon. I hate having to ask my managers because I think I'm old enough and I've watched enough dealings in this world to understand what the right procedure is, but my mind still goes blank. I haven't gotten many complaints about my performance, but people often get mad at me for not being more flexible. The fear of doing something wrong is strong. This also makes working with kids hard, because I require that rules be followed to the letter, and I don't know when it's okay to deviate from them. It especially makes me angry when supervisors switch up regulations, because I can't carry out my duty.

    • I can't do math. I mean, I can add and subtract, but usually only if I write it down. So you're probably going, "how can you be a cashier?" Well, the set-up at my particular work is very conducive to helping out people like me. But I realize the irony of my existence. And sometimes, I'm not as bad.

    • I have a hard time gauging what the right thing to say is at a particular moment. I know what's right for me, but because it is right for me, it's usually not right for others. Meaning, of course, it's usually coarse and callous because I'm not so nice. At my cashiering job, people can be pretty snippy in a half-teasing, half-truly-cruel way, so I try to fit in a snarky, self-aware comment here and there. Usually, though, they're not well-received. Therefore, I don't see myself working up the ladder using my charm.

    • I can't stand for long periods unless I'm wearing the right footwear, and even then it's iffy. I need to set up a doctor's appointment. Yes, I know.


    tldr; I'm slow.

    If these personality traits are truly fixed, how can I work around them? I know they're hindering me but I have no way of beating them down or throwing them out. If they can, feel free to give me advice on that. But back to if they can't: what jobs are basically foolproof in this instance of me being so mentally rigid? I need something new within the next couple of months. Or, at least, that's what I'm aiming for.

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    Have you considered an office-type job where you'd be doing more work on a computer than working directly with people (maybe something related to tech?)? Or do you have any skills that could allow you to do freelance work? With freelance you would at least have more control over the amount of work you're doing and the pace you're working at. Any type of job working with people, kids or adults, is going to require some degree of flexibility on your part and would be harder (and more stressful) if you're rigid.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina&Jane View Post
    Have you considered an office-type job where you'd be doing more work on a computer than working directly with people (maybe something related to tech?)?
    Every office job I look for wants years of experience which I don't have. All I have is my smattering of retail experience.

    I do speak Spanish pretty well, but every translating company that is a good one usually wants certification, or so I've read. I got accepted into a program online, but people in it are prone to drop out at high rates because it's not like a college degree or anything... I'm not really sure why they drop out but a lot of classes get cancelled often.

    Good questions, though.

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    I don't think you're really any different than anyone else, as far as employability goes. I think you are giving too much power to a variable you haven't even determined yet.

    It's better to focus on your strengths, anyway.
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    Hey there awbro! You're not alone in feeling this way! I also feel as if many workplaces can be quite demanding and am struggling to find a path that suits me. Have you tried taking the career test here?: CareerExplorer
    I found it to be pretty comprehensive with lots of options and it matched my preferences perfectly! (The downside is that my preferences = gardening, street art, animal and wildlife rescue...gotta make a living, so back to square one! Hopefully your results will be more practical )
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    Have you considered working as something like a quality control specialist or a document review specialist or a pharmacy tech where your critical eye for details and regulations would be highly valued?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Consilience View Post
    Have you considered working as something like a quality control specialist or a document review specialist or a pharmacy tech where your critical eye for details and regulations would be highly valued?
    Can't do pharmacy tech... My math skills would need a lot of brushing up and even then I'm not sure I'd be good at it.

    Proofreading, I've thought about. But there don't seem to be any openings in companies. I'd have to start my own business. And that has its own complications.

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    i'm a slow in-person learner too. it makes the training period in learning a new job stressful, but it's not impossible. none of that sounds like anything that makes you unemployable. you just sound like someone with a bit of anxiety.

    how old are you exactly? are you in school?

    the hardest part is getting hired. but once you actually find a job, don't worry about your inadequacies. that's why they train you. they want someone willing to learn.

    now, finding a job is a headache and a half in and of itself and can be rather demeaning, so i understand if that bit frustrates you. i don't have much advice other than make sure your resume looks good and apply to as many applications as possible. cast a wide net.
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    nothing about what you listed would rule out a call center... they are super easy to get hired by... even the not knowing what to say is perfect because they generally want you to stick to their script...
    "I will employ all of my cunning and my patience
    Then we will persevere
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    I cannot tell you how to feel"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Obfuscate View Post
    nothing about what you listed would rule out a call center... they are super easy to get hired by... even the not knowing what to say is perfect because they generally want you to stick to their script...
    I'm good at reading off a script. It's what happens off a script that I have trouble dealing with, but what also intrigues me and what I'd like to do and get better at. Of course, throwing yourself into a job and expecting to learn that on the fly isn't going to work (especially for someone like me) but in an ideal world, it would.

    I was thinking of jobs at a translation company, or something. Being a proofreader requires too many things at this stage in the game. I'm looking for something I can get into fast, but preferably can stay in in the long term.

    My current company has no openings that I'm qualified for, and I bombed a job interview I think by talking too fast this past week. I didn't intend to talk too fast. I don't think I was too nervous, just excited and wanting to have an actual conversation with the interviewers. They always promise a job interview is a discussion between the interviewee and the interviewers, but it never works out that way. I've gotten a lot of advice on how to interview better, but I never seem to apply it at the right time. I think I've just gotten so comfortable in my current job and don't want to rock the boat, yet I crave novelty and I desperately want to get out from under my current boss and the company I work for. The whole climate is very strict.

    To make matters worse, it took me forever to settle on a major in college, and I'm still not sure if it's the one for me. I've been recommended trade schools and certificates, but everything is tech-focused, or, perhaps... too narrow. I just don't feel comfy in anything I do, like I'll be trapped in one area forever. I've read in many places that a degree doesn't define you and many people don't even use their degrees in the field they go into later. So *shrug*

    It's just a very stressful existence and I don't know what would make it better. But I certainly can't stand working with the co-workers I have anymore, doing the work I'm doing.

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