nynesneg
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- Oct 18, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ENFJ
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- 3w2
At first I was a bit suprised, I didn't think I'd relate to this thread at all. I don't feel "disappointed" in any specific people per say. More just a sad frustration initially then acceptence that "that's just how they are". But as I read on...
Described it to a tee......not being able to find anyone that has the want to know what is going on with me. I think ENFJ�s might seem like they are independent ad strong willed and therefore no one worries about them. What I think we really want is for someone to admire all of those things that make us ENFJ, to covet that, and to want to know all about us.
Surprisingly accurate. I don't see myself as having high expectation. Nor do I see myself as being easily disappointed... I tend to get disappointed then digest my feelings after several days and you just learn "that's how that person is" and I'm back to my happy-go-lucky self. You can't depend on them for those needs. I've had to work with this particularly with quite a few xSxPs friends I see every day. So I guess I do build somewhat of a wall, while still keeping our friendship on a surface level in other areas. This leaves me feeling pretty misunderstood at the end of the day, but that's normal. Interesting.I also have high expectations ...Although I tend to not see this as a negative thing, but rather that I would be disrepecting myself if I didn't expect someone to act as thoughtfully toward me as I would toward them. Similarly I expect my friends to show up when they say they will, etc. I am understanding and patient, but if I am disappointed too many times I pretend to build a wall and block those people out.