ThinkingAboutIt
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- Apr 8, 2009
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I have an ENFJ that works for me. I am having a few problems that I need help with...
One is...if I give the person something to do, they want me to be involved every step of the way or they want to do it together. I can never just give it to them, tell them what to do and get it back finished. I can give the most explicit instructions, watch them write it down and repeat it back to me, say yes that is exactly what I want once they are finished but 10 minutes later they still do it wrong and I have to go over everything again. Or, I get it back half done and have to finish it. How do I get them to understand that if I wanted to do it myself, I would not have given it to them? How do I get them to understand that they need to pay more attention so they do not make errors? (they just blow it off as, oh well, a mistake even after it was the same mistake for the 3rd time...they have total denial of ever discussing it, which amazes me). This is VERY frustrating to me because it wastes a huge amount of time everyday and I already have a lot on my plate!
This might be the wrong forum to ask, but I like the person and I want to make things better if possible, thanks.
One is...if I give the person something to do, they want me to be involved every step of the way or they want to do it together. I can never just give it to them, tell them what to do and get it back finished. I can give the most explicit instructions, watch them write it down and repeat it back to me, say yes that is exactly what I want once they are finished but 10 minutes later they still do it wrong and I have to go over everything again. Or, I get it back half done and have to finish it. How do I get them to understand that if I wanted to do it myself, I would not have given it to them? How do I get them to understand that they need to pay more attention so they do not make errors? (they just blow it off as, oh well, a mistake even after it was the same mistake for the 3rd time...they have total denial of ever discussing it, which amazes me). This is VERY frustrating to me because it wastes a huge amount of time everyday and I already have a lot on my plate!
This might be the wrong forum to ask, but I like the person and I want to make things better if possible, thanks.