I have not read the whole thread, but:
You know, it recently occurred to me that I've actually very rarely had an INTx say something rude or blunt to me. I mean, occasionally, yes, but not more often than Fs, who seem equally likely to lash out at me.
I tend to assume that they would be more willing to, but often they aren't.
I don't know what to say here. I don't know enough other INTs to have formed a generalised opinion about them, but I know I go out of my way to avoid being rude or mean to people. I'm opposed to causing harm, so I really don't want to hurt feelings. I phrase criticism constructively and never attack anything at a personal level.
That said, I don't go out of my way to be particularly
nice very often. Helpful, yes, but not so much nice. It's more...neutral treatment, I guess. It could probably be interpreted as rude or cold, but it's really just me conserving energy while trying not to negatively impact people, getting on with my life and letting everyone else get on with theirs.
So, never intentionally rude or blunt, but not overly skilled in my attempts to nicen things up, and so probably come across as cold. Also inclined to think that if that's so, people can just deal with it, because I've done as much as I can.
What's more, it seems like while they aren't very overtly expressive, they tend to go out of their way to offer advice, information, explanations, or other kinds of help with something. Even in situations where I wouldn't have bothered or thought it wasn't really my responsibility.
This, I think, may be a T/F thing. It actually gets me in trouble sometimes.
When I hear about a problem, the first thing I automatically do is try to solve it - I ask for more information and then suggest courses of action, or I highlight another perspective from which the problem could be viewed, etc. Sometimes this is fine, but sometimes I'm met with anger because they didn't
want practical help, they just wanted sympathy and emotional support. Which I'm not great at giving, and which I tend to think is...not very useful...except in extreme cases (where the problem itself is their emotional state rather than anything that can be 'fixed' external to them).