Esoteric Wench
Professional Trickster
- Joined
- Dec 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7w8
I vote the N-doms of the NFs. More likely to read into things, IMO.
I can't argue with this. But it does seem that Ne + Ti (INFJs) makes for a more dolorous tendencies. I've had more than one on this forum assume I had the worst intentions when I was just joking around. Might be my Te rubbing their Ti the wrong way I think.
I think that ENFPs do read meaning into EVERYTHING. My experience has been it depends on whether or not I'm judging what I'm observing via my Fi or Te that has a radical effect on how I respond.
If I judge with Fi, then I sometimes overly moralize things and if I judge something as hurtful I get WAY hurt. If I judge it as loving, I feel WAY love.
If I judge something with my Te, I tend to have a "No shit, huh" kind of response that allows me to stay cool and collected.
My real life experience is that ENFPs get pouty easily, but then get over it relatively quickly; and INFJs blow up out of nowhere & hold some ridiculous grudge for years, often over something they've done themselves (can dish it out, but not take it). I consider that the most "butthurt"
Here again, I completely agree with OrangeAppled. I can get riled up easily, but I also let it go easily. The INFJs I know hold it in until they are about to explode. Then, when the floodgates are released.... whoa Nellie. You're gonna see a whole lot of butthurtin' expressed.
(God I both love and hate the word butthurt all at the same time. Or perhaps I hate myself for liking it so much.)
INFPs get really, really quiet when hurt, and if it's noted, then people often don't know why & tend to assume it is something more frivolous than it really is (which may seem "butthurt" to them). If an INFP snaps back, there's a greater chance they think they are playing your game, not necessarily hurt (NTs aren't the only sardonic ones...). Sometimes people see hostility when it's just a passionate interest in a topic; NPs like to consider different perspectives indepth, and may even play devil's advocate with people.
This is very true of my INFP BFF. She gets super quiet when she's really, really upset. I always joke with her that she takes the old adage, "You can say more with a whisper than a scream" to heart.