Okay then, I'll go first-and maybe last. Whenever myself, such as my views/beliefs/opinions are compromised with an ultimatum, I go into Emotion mode-well to me it is overly emotional. I freak out. I shake. I can think of nothing else. And this usually takes time for me to think about it before I act. When I can find no other resolve, I usually go over that person's head, or make sure and get my point across to all innocent bystanders.
And I don't like insults that are specific attacks on what I have said or done. I've already thought about it in my own mind, I don't need someone else's redundancy to take up my day.
And I don't handle people telling me how they think I should be. Even if I say 'I need to be more_____', that doesn't mean I want my dear Aunt to say, 'You know, I never wanted to say anything, but you've always been cold. Just real cold hearted and unaffectionate.' I have my reasons, that are thought about quickly, yet to great extent, for my actions. And being smothered in contact affection is enough for the both of us. Why would I need to hang all over someone that is already hanging on me? Although, I never say anything to my aunt. Maybe just an 'OKAY!' to cease the conversation.
I don't go around barking crap in other people's faces or dictating their lives. I expect the same respect in return.
Here's one example-just to be specific(and bear in mind, I'm not this mean unless provoked)
I go into work, and my boss is looking up obituaries online and tells me his neighbor died in a car collision-which is awful. He tells me that he and his wife went over to their house 'to see what was going on, and see if we could help.' (Notice the order of those)
Then he starts telling me how this woman's best friend is a drunk and she made a joke about Vodka, so 'that confirmed what we thought.' Then he shows me pictures of the car smashed on the interstate. All the while, I'm thinking-'so you are THAT neighbor'-I don't know this person, why am I virtually rubbernecking at their car?-'If I lost my best friend, I can't say I wouldn't do the same, if she even IS a drinker'(I said that one).
Later in the day, I made some random comment about my feet hurting and another co-worker piped in with,'You should just be happy and be grateful for your life. You never know you could be getting scraped up off the interstate tomorrow.'
I said,'I'm not going to commit suicide! My feet just hurt! It doesn't mean I hate my life!'
Finally I said, 'You know, I don't like looking at car wrecks all day online. Maybe it just hits too close to home. With my past and all.' (I was in a fatal car crash, and they both knew that. What douche bags!) As I was leaving, he shouted-'Enjoy your life!' I replied, 'I will enjoy my day and my life, when I go home and you're not there.'