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i am saying that the process of doorslamming means blocking off communication from the person who can tell you the other side, you are choosing to create your own blindspot to someone else's perspective (or support a perexisting one), you are socially engineering your own tunnel vision by not allowing for the other person's perspective to be heard.So do are you supposing here that keeping in contact will assure the person will eventually lose their blind spot?
and if you had no problem with your own states of tunnel vision when you feel you have your reasons and when it's justifiable from your perspective, where was her perspective within your decision to doorslam her for the very thing you are capable of having yourself? you agree so easily with those who say i "assume no introspectioin" but where was your introspection when you held her for ideals that the most fundemental level of introspection would have told you your failing at yourself?
when it comes to relationship problems - the act of doorslamming demands lying to yourself by telling yourself you explored all the possible avenues when not only is it not possible but your blocking them from doing the same.
but when it comes to stuff like this... seriously where do you get off holding people to ideals you couldn't reach by standing on the tip of your toes?