Highschool in particular.
In primary school I was a quiet "gifted" kid apparently, then when I got to highschool I became a little shit. My friends and I were rowdy, would mock everything, question everything teachers told us to do, resist any structure imposed on us, light fires, goof off and I never took school seriously until after I had left.
After highschool I went back to being the quiet thoughtful person I am today, something about the highschool system didn't sit with me and I rebeled throughout.
Is this normal for SPs or ISFPs?
I was a fairly good student, but wasn't interested in academics per se. Either I liked the subject and I learned not only the assigned material but also a whole lot more, or I didn't like the subject but still got pretty good grades because I was a good test-taker (cramming right before exams worked for me). I graduated with a B+ average.
Socially, I wasn't outwardly a rebel at all, but I did have this HUGE need to make my own choices regardless of what anyone else in my class was doing. As a result, I wasn't popular, but I wasn't disliked either. I don't think most of the other kids knew what to make of me. I always managed to have a friend or two, but I have no doubt a lot of kids thought I was weird -- or at the very least, too quiet. (aside: Why is it that outgoing teens seem to have this need to shove their faces into the faces of shy teens and say
"Don't you ever talk?!?" I used to not know how to respond to that until one day on impulse I simply smiled mysteriously and slowly shook my head. That got a positive response, for some reason.)
I think what saved me from being taunted by all the "in" crowd for my quietness and TOTAL lack of interest in sports, school spirit, and popular taste in music and fashion (I listened to vintage 1930s jazz and wore some pretty weird ensembles -- many of them were frumpy-unattractive rather than cool) -- at any rate, what saved me, I think, was that I was an artistic show-off. I enterted art contests and won a few, and got quite a lot of positive attention for what I could do, even though I have no idea why some of those kids even cared. That was my experience, at any rate.
Oh yeah, and boyfriends were nonexistant until I went to college. Maybe my frumpy artsy-fartsy appearance and untypical tastes turned them off, or maybe it was because I was very shy and didn't pay guys much attention at all (I was so inwardly-focused, it wasn't even funny!) At any rate, when I was 18, some guy asked me out a week after I started college, and I was so shocked by that that I turned him down because I thought he was only trying to make fun of me. I later found out from a friend of his that he WAS seriously wanting to ask me out, and that it wasn't a joke, and he was really disappointed because he really liked me. Ah well. I was SO socially awkward...
Sarah
ISFP