It has everything to do with the individual....but based on my friends and people I've dated...
I usually get along well with:
ISFJs - Sometimes we clash on rules, but most I've known are very sweet and earnest and truly good people. We can actually have similar interests, but different ways of looking at it.
ENFJs - Just love 'em to pieces & I always get an insta-bond with them IRL. I've only met one guy I suspect who might be ENFJ who has a creepy cult leader vibe, but by far the exception. I love the mix of friendly and warm, but with depth and insight.
INFJs - I've only known a few IRL, but we seem to get along well. I like the ones I've talked to indepth online. There's enough differences to keep it interesting.
ENFPs - I don't think I've ever met one I didn't like. I've had many ENFP friends IRL. EXFPs tend to be my best female friends.
ISFP - I like them as friends a lot & we can often have much in common. I've mistaken quite a few for INFPs because we have a good Fi-Fi connection, and I find Se and Ne mostly complementary.
I have mixed feelings about:
ESFJs - they can be sweet & giving & wonderful (the Fe aspects I like), or overbearing and shallow. I have a feeing I might like ESFJ men a lot. I'm not sure if I've known any well. My grandma is this type & while she can annoy me she's also one of the people I am closest to in the world.
ESFPs - I've had great ESFP friends who I have a lot of fun with, but some can be too hedonistic/shallow/self-absorbed/attention-whoring (even the ones I get along with). The ESFPs I am close to are really smart and it frustrates me when they like to play dumb. I find them really loyal as friends though, and when I like them I totally love them. Healthy, developed Fi in an ESFP can really make a difference.
ISTJs - I like the ones who are not uptight/stuck on rules. I've had a few guy friends of this type who big music nerds & I can always count on them for bootlegs and what not. I am wary of them when it comes to dating though; I'm afraid they will cage me.
ISTPs - They seem really interesting, but we never totally gel. I think I'm too bookish for them
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INTPs - I will often get along well with them at arm's length or in the beginning, but the ones who are immature and get belligerent ruin it. It's too bad, because we have great conversations. I think maturity/balance makes the difference with them.
I am wary of:
ESTP - they've just proven over & over that they cannot be trusted, and I hate when they have a mean/vulgar sense of humor. However, I know nice ones exist (don't worry Halla, I know
you're cool
).
ESTJ - we hardly cross paths, because I avoid them like the plague when I observe them being abrasive and caustic...again, I'm sure some are cool. I don't write off whole types. I've met some I like.
INTJ - I've met sooo many IRL. They always want to date me. There is an inexplicable draw at first...and then nothing. I honestly find them a little....dull.
ENTPs - they seem smart, funny, creative, but we don't gel for some reason. I know one ENTP woman IRL and she's really cool, but I couldn't see us ever being close.
Not enough data:
INFP - met one guy IRL that I didn't like, but I like many online.
ENTJ - met very few. My aunt may be one (not sure about her), and if so I think I'd mostly like them.