That idea comes from the way she is treating me. She has been acting very huffy puffy.
First time I saw her 8 days later, shame.
Next time a few days later, quiet, not mean, normal. I touched her hand like she does to me and I don't believe that went over too well. Why? Next time she completely stonewalled me, looked the other way, rude. Twice over the next 1-2 weeks she would say why do I have her wait on me and not someone else. She wasn't seeking a response. She never waited for one. The next time she she walked away when I tried to approach her outside when I ran into her. Same night a little while later, she huffed and puffed to her friend, I was too far to hear, but about me. Another day I found out "my" infp told her to not wait on me, and said it angrily. The next time her friend was there and suggested I try to get "my" infp to talk as she was about to leave. she wouldn't. She said she didn't want to deal with my shenanigans. The next time "my" escalated her threats and language to me and her friend told me that the day before she also mentioned something. I spoke with her friend and her friend was surprised it was lasting so long. Her friend said she would speak with her last Sunday on their way home. I haven't been there since. I can tell the way "my" Infp looks at me lately. She is a different person, paranoid, no trust, and you can see it in her face that she feels I am plotting revenge or something. Suspicious. I am not in any way. But she no longer believes that. I can see it on her face. I would just give her a hug and say it's cool. It is coming across as if I am pushing too hard to resolve, but twice a week isn't much to me and the weeks are passing by. I won't live in a world of months. I would rather put my best effort forward for happiness for all and then let her approach me after that if she wants.
I chose not to wait several weeks to resolve the situation. 8 days. I thought it was resolved after that and we would go back to normal. She wasn't ready or willing to back to how we were, and she still isn't. The more I try to approach her, the more her behavior escalates into threats. I have reached the point where I am uncomfortable approaching her at all. Why? In the heat of the moment she could say the wrong thing to the wrong person and either she or I could face an unexpected problem at her work and I won't let that happen. She could approach superiors at this point. About what I have no idea, that I am bothering her or something. That is why I am using her trustworthy friend. It's such an easy thing in my mind to fix. She wants to avoid me at all costs. So if I can tell a trusted third party, her friend, who is objective enough, I know her friend will try with her. I can give het friend my number and tell her friend that "my" Infp can just get in touch when she's ready. I need someone else that knows her to know the truth and offer up common sense.
I want to feel okay with myself. I want to feel okay that I have done all I can to help her, and I want 100% clear communication and info. I don't believe we have that yet. Her friend is my wild card. She may listen to her friend.
First time I saw her 8 days later, shame.
Next time a few days later, quiet, not mean, normal. I touched her hand like she does to me and I don't believe that went over too well. Why? Next time she completely stonewalled me, looked the other way, rude. Twice over the next 1-2 weeks she would say why do I have her wait on me and not someone else. She wasn't seeking a response. She never waited for one. The next time she she walked away when I tried to approach her outside when I ran into her. Same night a little while later, she huffed and puffed to her friend, I was too far to hear, but about me. Another day I found out "my" infp told her to not wait on me, and said it angrily. The next time her friend was there and suggested I try to get "my" infp to talk as she was about to leave. she wouldn't. She said she didn't want to deal with my shenanigans. The next time "my" escalated her threats and language to me and her friend told me that the day before she also mentioned something. I spoke with her friend and her friend was surprised it was lasting so long. Her friend said she would speak with her last Sunday on their way home. I haven't been there since. I can tell the way "my" Infp looks at me lately. She is a different person, paranoid, no trust, and you can see it in her face that she feels I am plotting revenge or something. Suspicious. I am not in any way. But she no longer believes that. I can see it on her face. I would just give her a hug and say it's cool. It is coming across as if I am pushing too hard to resolve, but twice a week isn't much to me and the weeks are passing by. I won't live in a world of months. I would rather put my best effort forward for happiness for all and then let her approach me after that if she wants.
I chose not to wait several weeks to resolve the situation. 8 days. I thought it was resolved after that and we would go back to normal. She wasn't ready or willing to back to how we were, and she still isn't. The more I try to approach her, the more her behavior escalates into threats. I have reached the point where I am uncomfortable approaching her at all. Why? In the heat of the moment she could say the wrong thing to the wrong person and either she or I could face an unexpected problem at her work and I won't let that happen. She could approach superiors at this point. About what I have no idea, that I am bothering her or something. That is why I am using her trustworthy friend. It's such an easy thing in my mind to fix. She wants to avoid me at all costs. So if I can tell a trusted third party, her friend, who is objective enough, I know her friend will try with her. I can give het friend my number and tell her friend that "my" Infp can just get in touch when she's ready. I need someone else that knows her to know the truth and offer up common sense.
I want to feel okay with myself. I want to feel okay that I have done all I can to help her, and I want 100% clear communication and info. I don't believe we have that yet. Her friend is my wild card. She may listen to her friend.