The way I put it is this... I live mostly in a symbolic atmosphere. I take very good care of it, make everyone sharing my current space feel at home and at ease.
However, if I am genuinely mad at you and you have been labeled as fundamentally repulsive..I will ensure that you will psychologically bleed from every orifice that I can think of - letting loose all the toxic symbols I usually filter out, until you're choking in metaphysical nerve gas. Then I will use the full spectrum of my so-called "people skills" and manipulate others into doing the same. Ultimately, I want to make you sorry you were born at all.
I never got physical when angry... maybe just once. Again, it was more of a symbolic kick than anything else.
Over the years, I did calm down and stopped using others - partly because halfway through, they escaped my influence and went "Wow... why am I here?" as if they woke up from a brainwashing spell... then it all backfires on me and... that ruins everything.
Now, its far classier. My tone of voice does get cold, and with a purposeful fake smile, I ask to retire.
Depending on the situation (89.9% of the time), I will apologize and make up for it. With hugs and genuine smiles for everyone -
See, it's no wonder so many ENFPs make it a point to hide how they truly feel from others. Fi can be mercilessly destructive. It's very easy to say "Oh, my.. I ruined everything with that display of emotion.. I must suppress it and wear and Fe mask instead".