Dragging up an older thread if that's okay.
I met someone through a mutual friend. About 90% sure he is ISTJ (dependable, genuine, into social group membership for the community good, dedicated to his work). Highlights from our only date so far and question follow.
He played a joke on me at the very beginning and teased me a bit more throughout the date. Shared about his family, 'confessed' about a change in his hobbies and added that he used an existing obligation as an excuse. Presented himself as being more similar to me than he probably is. (Example: Saying his emotions can interfere with task-completion after I said I work better when I enjoy my work.) He agreed to moving the night of said date after checking his assignment deadlines. I found out during the date that he had a test the following day.
I am obsessing a little because I see so much potential here that I can't quite bring myself to just move on yet. I have also heard ISTJ prefers traditional gender roles so I'm leaving him be. He's taking forever to follow up with me. (Forever in ESFP language means it's been 3 days). I sort of expected the call today since that's the mainstream pacing for follow-up after a date. He said he would call me (which can be the kiss of death with many guys but he has expressed being a man of his word... like a fool I took him at his word and now I'm squirming).
I'm trying to figure out which is more likely: He is interested, but the ISTJ can take longer to make social contact than many other types, or he's not really that interested and only asked me out because the mutual friends thought we might hit it off so he felt obligated.
I quoted the post above because some of those details seemed to match. Considering the combination of that match, and how I still have not heard from him, I'm confused.
Thanks in advance for any insight or feedback