AphroditeGoneAwry
failure to thrive
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- Feb 20, 2009
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infp
ISFJ, could be... but I don't think Fe is my auxiliary function. In fact, I don't think I use Fe at all.
I hate social norms that make no sense to me and I completely lack the team spirit typical of Fe users, who see me as an unethical attention whore because I think funerals are useless and birthday parties are dumb. I'm not an attention whore, by the way.
I was thinking about the difference between Fi and Fe when I remembered an argument I'd had earlier with my mother (ESFJ) about pizza. She wanted us all to have pizza for dinner, but she thought it would be better if we only bought three pizzas (there's four of us), because they're big and also to save money, so that everyone would have 2/3 of a normal pizza and we would share. Since I don't like vegetarian pizza, pepperoni pizza, pizza with parmesan (and everyone knows it for god's sake), and those were the pizzas they wanted (I would have had to eat one piece of each), I told them that it was ok if they ate pizza and I ate something else. My mother got super angry and said I'm always trying to ruin everything, and that she wanted EVERYONE to have pizza. I basically told them that it wasn't a problem for me not to eat my favourite food so that THEY could have they could have the three pizzas they wanted, and she yelled at me. Probably if I were an ISFJ, I would have eaten those pizzas whether I liked them or not, just to make everyone happy. I don't know if it makes sense but could this be an example of Fe (wanting to eat the same food together) vs Fi?
The idea of me being Fi-dom doesn't seem so far-fetched anymore.
As a side note, I also hate sharing, lending or borrowing stuff.
Idk if that really demonstrates Fe vs Fi... it seems like a very simplistic interpretation.
The past couple days I have been trying to identify the extroverted function through how someone writes. I haven't seen too many FJs around the forum, but I think they may be good at writing about their personal lives, or at least writing from a very personal perspective. I don't see you using logical phrases like a TJ or connection based terms like an NP (sorry, very vague here about what Te and Ne comes across as, still trying to formulate expressions for what I am starting to see). There as too few SPs around the forum for me to identify what they're like yet, but I imagine they are very factual.
The past couple days I have been trying to identify the extroverted function through how someone writes. I haven't seen too many FJs around the forum, but I think they may be good at writing about their personal lives, or at least writing from a very personal perspective. I don't see you using logical phrases like a TJ or connection based terms like an NP (sorry, very vague here about what Te and Ne comes across as, still trying to formulate expressions for what I am starting to see). There as too few SPs around the forum for me to identify what they're like yet, but I imagine they are very factual.
Hmm this is interesting I want to guess that N is not your first function, but likely your second or third. You remind me somewhat of me, until I was twelve years old I agreed that I was a Conservative Christian of the kind of older Southern sort, not the big flashy churches plastic smile evangelical, more like the people who attended outdoor revivals, cry over Elvis ballads, keep the "good book" in a visible place full of family documents, who may hide money under their mattress, own a shotgun, and would NEVER as a woman wear pants to church, and as a man would never wear jeans, etc.
However around age 13 I suddenly questioned everything. I was also a "good" child, but became extremely rebellious in my teens in a borderline incorrigible way, balanced only by my personal investment in thinking things through, reading, etc keeping me from being one of the worst. It wasn't so much about being "bad" as feeling trapped or stifled.
You do seem kind of comically closed minded as a child though