Why were her kids allowed to stay? I would have said, "Your kids don't have to go home, but they have to get the heck up outta here."
She picks my older son up twice a week to hang out with her kids. I have tried to pay her for this, but she refuses. It ends this week.
Funny, my mom does this crap-care about me because I help you and love you, so you should love me and help me. A childhood of guilt trips means that now when I help people I do so almost coldly. I want to help, very much so, but I turn it into a business transaction to keep it from becoming any sort of emotional obligation on their part towards me. For this same reason, I HATE to be helped.
I thought by keeping her kids, she might leave. Well first I tried a beer-when the beer is done she will leave right? No. What if i keep her kids? No. What about after some food? no. Finally I had to put the toddler down for a nap....
What do you ENFP's have to say in regards to the balance between alone time and having others around/being lonely?
For me-my home is where I hide. It is Si refresh time or Ne dream time. All of my friends are at work, so I engage with people there mostly. But I dont need many people, just a few good friends.
Sky is right-it is something about being mentally prepared to have people over-there is a mental effort-focus required for those interactions. By just showing up you are asking me to "work", if I didnt seek your company. If I sought you company I would find it refreshing actually and be excited.
She is a nice person, and I am being mean by being so cranky but urghhh.
And U if you start telling me about the Pauli exclusion principal, I'd likely crack open another beer and start asking questions about astrophysics. Talk about tax codes if you need to scare off ENFPs...