OrangeAppled
Sugar Hiccup
- Joined
- Mar 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Maybe you don't owe anyone an explanation, but unless you can explain why you think a certain way you shouldn't be surprised if people discard your opinion or even think it's stupid. Also, I find it funny that people should automatically appreciate your beliefs just because you choose to share them. Keep your unfounded opinions to yourself around INTJs if you don't wish to discuss them.
Also, an INTJ incessantly talking about themselves? Seems you haven't actually met any real ones. No surprise, considering the vast amount of mistypes.
Oh no, they were definitely INTJs. And by talking about "me" I mean their interests and thoughts (not necessarily personal details). Considering these were one-on-one date settings with both individuals being INxx types, it's not unbelievable that the INTJ hogged the conversation.
I very much keep my well thought out & supported opinions to myself, which is why it takes a lot to coax them out. I don't have much interest in sharing them, because I dislike conflict (which could possibly result) & it takes a lot of energy to explain them.
There is also a MASSIVE difference between "can not" explain & "will not" explain. I did not say people should automatically appreciate my beliefs - they should appreciate the fact that I have chosen to open up to them because it takes a lot out of me to do so. No one should approach anyone with a sense of entitlement to their thoughts. A single "why?" response is likely to come off that way, especially considering the blank face & monotone voice some INTJs display. Not to mention, why would you ask "why" if you're disinterested because you've already decided their beliefs are unfounded? That attitude is a perfect example of why many INFPs don't share easily.
It seems to me this thread has the INTJs asking why INFPs clam up around them when discussing deeper beliefs/feelings; just because you don't LIKE the reason offered, does not make it untrue. If you won't adjust your style to accommodate the INFP, then don't expect one to open up to you & accommodate you. It works both ways.
Stringstheory explained it nicely as well.