The the OP, I don't disagree with you at all. It's annoying when you do your job and do it well, and others who aren't even management or better than you nitpick and want you to be like them. I've worked with some freaking annoying people, so I understand that frustration.
HOWEVER -- your post did remind me of other frustrations I've had and I wanted to counter the kernel of the idea of 'personality' in the workplace. So kinda a tangent.
Here I go!
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Hmm, well there's personality difference that's 'immutable' meaning it cannot me 'wrong' and then there's context.
If you used personality as a hard and fast rule and justification for why you are or are not doing something and you did not have to change for anyone or anything else, the world wouldn't have gotten as far as it has. And there'd really be no way for 'jobs' as they do now to exist, since you would never have to fulfill the responsibilities and expectations given you.
There's a lot of flex and compromise involved when it comes to personality type and dealing with others and hard work to be successful.
I remember my more introverted and shy real estate classmates (the majority of the class) complaining about how they were NOT going to 'farm' for business (knock on doors, cold call, etc.) and how putting your name and face on something like a grocery store shopping cart or magazine insert was embarassing and they could never give out business cards at parties.
I was totally baffled. "How exactly will you find clients?" I asked. The usual answer was 'through friends' (btw, this is the kiss of death for both their careers and for the family members who are most likely going to get a crappy job done)
People complained constantly about how they didnt' want to do the job because it didn't fit their 'personality' and yet most still had visions of making 'easy money'. Finally I told one woman, "That's [the outgoing, shameless self-promoter] the kind of personality that this business is about." And she got insulted and said, "Well not everyone has that personality" And I remember getting pissed off and thinking, "Exactly you greedy dumbass." (pardon my french)
I totally did NOT understand why she was getting pissy over a very obvious and blatant fact that was hammered into us in all our qualifying classes in almost every class by all our teachers. You MUST cold call and introduce yourself to strangers, you MUST knock on doors and introduce yourself to neighbors and find business, etc.
if you actually want a successful career in real estate. It's called hard work. And if you aren't willing to do the work, you will most likely quit like LOTS of real estate agents do.
Why were these people wasting their time trying to get a job that they knew from the get go they did NOT want to do? What was the point of never doing their job properly or serving their client and then backing it up with, "That's just my personality". WTF. To me that's just so insane it boggles my mind and it's just whining to me, "I suck at this job and refuse to do the work because my personality is too good for it, but I still want to be as successful and wealthy as people who actually do all the requirements of the job and I'm going to talk mad shit about how superior my personality is because my preferences are better than theirs."
I think for me, 'that's just my personality' goes as far as to recognize what environments and positions are not right for me. And so I avoid them. Or else I rise to task and try to stretch myself to succeed. Or otherwise find ways to get the job done. To the OP, yeah, if you don't feel like smiling wide or going, "Gosh, thanks SO MUCH for the extra work!" that's totally fine. It honestly may hurt you in the long run depending on your office and industry, but enthusiasm isn't a 'job task'. Likewise for me, sometimes I just want to punch in, do the job, and leave. But I will still do the job.
But, I don't fall back on "I'm not going to do my job because that's just my personality and then I'm going to get self-righteous when you actually want me to do my job that I get paid for." WTH, I'm a freakin' "P" and I know that's just laziness and a bad attitude.
People do not owe you anything, least of all a regular paycheck or fat commission. You have to earn it. And if you don't want to do the work because that's your "personality", that's totally fine. But don't complain about it later like you deserve a prize for not trying. Especially if you aren't living on the poverty line and forced to work in whatever job you can get. If you have the luxury of 'choice' (which is always proscribed) then choose wisely and suck it up.