[MENTION=5159]Lexicon[/MENTION] and [MENTION=9811]Coriolis[/MENTION]
That rings true with my experience, so I guess I was misleading in my statements before. I'm the same way with apologies, generally -- i.e. sorrys don't solve anything, so please just get it fixed -- but I value the reasoning behind their mistake. I've found that Fi-users are more likely to explain themselves, and to respond well to other people explaining themselves. It's good to know where the person was coming from, so you can nip the real problem in the bud by telling them where their thought process went awry. By contrast, my personal experience has shown that Fe users respond very poorly to this and think the Fi user is avoiding taking responsibility for their actions.
Maybe this isn't so much about Fi/Fe -
or I could be a weird Fe person (that wouldn't be too far a leap, ha), but generally I appreciate explanations, as I get to learn better how they process the world, feel, think, etc. I feel closer to them that way. Understanding isn't always going to condone an action, but it helps in preventing future issues, in my experience. I do dislike the overly simple "i'm sorry" phrases that people try to apply as a pacifier or band-aid, to hurry up & move on. It sets off alarms in my head that either they're being insincere, or they're not understanding what the problem might have been, thus we can't really communicate to reach a resolution together.
I think some people will get touchy on the wording itself of the explanation, and then dismiss it as an excuse (and sometimes that;s all it is, but other times, it's a matter of semantics). Like someone might say, "I yelled because you pissed me off." Well, that's definitely going to feel like the person's assigning culpability for the emotional damage to the other party. Sometimes, that's their intent, other times, they're just not that great at explaining what emotionally set them off so badly. Everyone's got vulnerable spots, & it helps to address it directly when they've been tread upon. So I try to listen/look for that, see if they're attempting to communicate that to me, before dismissing the explanation as avoidance of responsibility. Usually at that point, I'll acknowledge that I see where they're coming from, but point out that I find it unacceptable/hurtful that they chose to act on their feelings in the way they did. Often I reach resolutions with volatile people this way.
I feel like so many conflicts between people in general wouldn't even happen if people tried to clarify those little things, nuances, that may go unsaid. If that makes sense. But of course that's the idealist's desire; the reality is humans are messy- the cogs in our metacognition & reasoning can easily grind to a halt when you drop particularly sharp feelings into the gears. These things can and will happen, & the most we can do is learn, teach ourselves, grow.