Yick, so I'm a really crappy planner, and in the past before I had more things to do and more people to hang out with, I was usually able to mask this fact. But now I've got a ton of homework (end of the semester's here), a boyfriend, a best friend, parents who are going through the difficulties of their child moving towards moving out.... I'm having to learn to become more organized than I used to be to avoid sending everyone the wrong messages and pissing everyone off. I realize I'm the weak link in most of this - I've been too lazy and passive for too long, and I know it - but a complaint specific to my boyfriend.
He's an ENTP too, but he's more confident, take-charge, and opinionated than me (I blame a lot of it on my being a girl and getting f'ed up in the socialization process - but that's just me being whiny...maybe). When we started dating, he was like "We'll both have our own things to keep us occupied, so we won't turn into clingers," and I was really happy about that. But now it's getting to the point where he doesn't have as much work to do and he doesn't keep up with his friends as much as I do, and so he's got all this free time he fills by coming up with stuff for us to do. Now, I don't mind hanging out with him a lot, and I don't feel clinged on per se, but he keeps sending me these subtle hints that he feels he's being too dominant in planning, and that he thought I'd become less passive when we started dating. Now, it's true, he does make most of the plans, and part of my passivity is due to my getting used to having a boyfriend, period (he's my first). But at this moment in time these little hints are succeeding more in pissing me off than encouraging me, because I'm really f'ing busy and am finding it hard to work up some magnificent plan a week ahead of time when I've got 4 papers due in one week and getting those done takes priority over everyone else. And I know part of the problem is, that he has more free time than me, and it seems like he's forgotten about his other friends and assumes that free time for him = hang-out time for us. So he plans things...BECAUSE HE HAS THE TIME AND MENTAL ENERGY LEFT TO DO SO AND I DO NOT.
I'm sure once this week is over, I'll have time to take such initiative (I've already told him this, and he knows I'm busy), but right now I just feel patronized by him in a way I don't feel patronized by the complaints of my mom (ISFJ) or my best friend (ESFJ) that have come up about related matters. And I don't like feeling patronized. At all. Even if his tone is unintentional.
So yeah, there's a rant for ya'll. Give meh some of the 'ol support.