hello
i just came by to read this thread because it's interesting and to drop love at ENFJs... i think sometimes it's a little hard for you guys to hear how very incredibly respected, loved, and appreciated you are over the sound of all that brilliant Ni analysis going on in there
well and also because some people
are ungrateful bastards and don't bother to tell ENFJs how awesome they are for being caring, generous, insightful, responsible, committed, confident, and all those other good ENFJy adjectives.
Domino said:
My ENFP sister says that ENFJs have a certain aura about them that's different from INFJs. Can anyone else confirm or deny this?
confirmed. i feel this as: ENFJs flip between enveloping and leading warmth and (Ni) distance. Fe is radiant, outward-moving, openly directing. with INFJs, there is a more steadily-maintained "distance" even when they're reaching out.
kasabian said:
I know the majority of people will love an ENFj but I think if you really get to know them it can colour your perception of them....which is one of the reasons I think they don't like to reveal too much of themselves......so they want to back off a lot of the time???????
heh. on the contrary, generally you guys are more interesting and appealing the more i get to know you. i mean, you start out interesting because you're a bit of a mystery - so warm and engaging, yet hiding so much - but anyway, maybe it's just an NFP thing, but i tend to like and respect people more and more as i learn about their hidden anxieties and inner struggles, not less.
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Koocoomoo said:
We worry about the same things and want the same things.
You want to help people and be taken care of
We want to take care of and be helped.
this, so much
i know that sometimes ENFJ-ENFP relations aren't the best, but for the record, i really appreciate my close ENFJ friend because, among other wonderful things, we're inverses in a lot of ways - we go about achieving goals differently but are still focused on the same core objectives. we're both
very NF. and one of the things i've found most interesting is that there's a pleasing "safe space" in our friendship in which i can be cold and judgmental, and she can be imperfect and anxious, and it's okay, because the other gets it - sides of ourselves we rarely let outsiders see. plus an ENFJ-ENFP team geared up to help someone/a cause is probably one of the most terrifying things ever. we are essentially unstoppable.
anyway, i'm also glad that i know her because it makes me appreciate other ENFJs more too.
that is all.
*returns to lurking*