wallflour
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Hey everyone, I understand everyone prefers different modes of communication, so I’m curious when you’re talking about your feelings, do you prefer
a.) someone who asks you questions that leads you to discovering new/more dimensions of the experience on your own
b.) someone who validates them, including relating personally to your experience
c.) someone who provides their analysis on your experience (not to judge/invalidate, but to offer possibilities that you might have missed)
d.) someone to treat your experience lightheartedly, thereby minimizing the entire experience
e.) someone to offer (practical) solutions
Oh, and stating your MBTI type would be helpful!
Feel free to expand, elaborate on how it depends, etc.
Or add communication modes I might have missed.
I’m also extra curious if (c) grates on anyone, since I did that recently to a friend who expressed uncertainty about her experience and she later pulled this out as an example of how I come off as a “thinker†because other people would have asked, “Oh, so how did you feel?†or try to relate by giving a personal experience, etc. That’s when I realized, oh, she probably would have appreciated those routes more… ): leaving me to wonder if someone else might have appreciated a “thinker response†or if it’s generally not preferred .-. I think I might have been able to frame what I said differently, into questions, so we could have engaged in a more back-and-forth manner, and that would have been better - similar to (a)?
edit: oops, wrong subforum, I think?
a.) someone who asks you questions that leads you to discovering new/more dimensions of the experience on your own
b.) someone who validates them, including relating personally to your experience
c.) someone who provides their analysis on your experience (not to judge/invalidate, but to offer possibilities that you might have missed)
d.) someone to treat your experience lightheartedly, thereby minimizing the entire experience
e.) someone to offer (practical) solutions
Oh, and stating your MBTI type would be helpful!
Feel free to expand, elaborate on how it depends, etc.
Or add communication modes I might have missed.
I’m also extra curious if (c) grates on anyone, since I did that recently to a friend who expressed uncertainty about her experience and she later pulled this out as an example of how I come off as a “thinker†because other people would have asked, “Oh, so how did you feel?†or try to relate by giving a personal experience, etc. That’s when I realized, oh, she probably would have appreciated those routes more… ): leaving me to wonder if someone else might have appreciated a “thinker response†or if it’s generally not preferred .-. I think I might have been able to frame what I said differently, into questions, so we could have engaged in a more back-and-forth manner, and that would have been better - similar to (a)?
edit: oops, wrong subforum, I think?