I don't think a double T or double F relationship would make for a good pair. Personally, I get more out of a relationship with an F than a T. I need someone that balances me, not reinforces my natural preferences. T women just don't manage to evoke the same feelings in me than F women do. With an F woman, I feel we both have seperate strengths and function as a team. With a T woman, we have similar strengths and so there is the potential for competition. However, the last thing I want in a relationship is to start arguing with my partner about the logic of X or Y. And I want to trust my partner to help me with the emotional/relational side of things.
Re the ENTP/INFJ pairing... I relate to what aelan says, my experiences of this both romantically and platonically is that ENTP seems to bring so much, but INFJ gives little in return but doe-eyed adoration and the occasional passive aggression when they feel slighted due to some insult that exists only in their head. But I wouldn't vouch for the healthiness levels of the INFJ's I've known though...
Currently with INFJ.
Trust me guys (other ENTPs). It's the way to go, if you can catch one - do so. I can see how some of you might misjudge them, but they're not soft or prudish/bookish as some of the literature implies. If I told you everything, you wouldn't believe me (some of them really do have psychic powers - but hide them). It's best for you to find out on your own.
Keirsey was right on this one - believe me. Of course, there will always be exceptions, but there is no doubt in my mnd, that if one measured %chance of a successful relationship, (for an ENTP) - it would significantly dwarf most other pairings.
Gay, shmay. I'm more interested to know if there's a male INFX anywhere in the world who didn't at one time or another go through a goth or emo-slash-hipster phase.
Gay, shmay. I'm more interested to know if there's a male INFX anywhere in the world who didn't at one time or another go through a goth or emo-slash-hipster phase.
Concerning your other points, my personal preferences are just that - personal. They are not to be argued with. Also, there's not much point in arguing whether T (wo)men are better or not than F (wo)men in a relationship with a T or F. It's like arguing if "Blue" is better than "Red". It's all a question of taste.
Pefect. But if it's all a question of taste and it's no more complex than that, then why did you bother explaining the logic behind your reasoning? And if it's just personal, why did you say "I don't think a double T or double F relationship would make for a good pair."? That makes it sound like you believe it's more than a matter of taste, and that you have some reasoning behind why you don't think double Ts and double Fs wouldn't make good relationships, even when you're not one of the people in the relationshiop.
Pefect. But if it's all a question of taste and it's no more complex than that, then why did you bother explaining the logic behind your reasoning? And if it's just personal, why did you say "I don't think a double T or double F relationship would make for a good pair."? That makes it sound like you believe it's more than a matter of taste, and that you have some reasoning behind why you don't think double Ts and double Fs would make good relationships, even when you're not one of the people in the relationshiop.
I'm not trying to pick you apart, I'm just really curious. I like to study people. Your style of communication works great for me, because it's easy and fast and I automatically know that all objective statements are really subjective even if they are not stated that way, so I'm not easily hurt, conflicted, or thrown off by them. But there might be some people out there who don't take it the same way. I know a lot of what you said was from the personal point of view, but some of it wasn't.
Now this is just me, but sometimes sharing an opinion seems a lot like presenting a case! I think I do it a lot. Like I'm a lawyer or something...
I'm curious, Maverick, what are you basing the bolded part on apart from extrapolation of your own preferences?
(Not questioning your logic so far, just determining what it is. )
On observations of couples that have stood the test of time around me, and my own opinion that it is better to have someone that will cater for your weakness and that you can help with your own strengths.
Ahh, so there is more to it than you've given the impression of so far. Which pairings do you know that have stood the test of time?
Looking at couples that have been together for more than ten years and that still report that they are happy together and in love: INTJ/ESFJ, ISTP/ENFJ, ISFJ/ESTP, INTP/ENFP, ISFJ/ENTJ, ISTJ/ENTJ, ISTJ/ENFx, ISTJ/ISTJ, ...
elbow nudging?