Is there? Discuss.
I have doorslammed after a lot of pain and trying to keep up boundaries with some people who just refused to listen to what I was trying to say.
One told me
"I do what I want, when I want, that's just who I am. Why can't you just accept this about me?"
But most of the time, people like this pretend to not understand it becomes too draining to maintain the contact and I'll go.
So yeah, I've doorslammed.
Hmm.. I get this way too. Maybe it's common for some of us?
When my boundaries get crossed, I door slam out of love, in hopes that the 'other' person starts to realize that in the moment that they acted out in such an abrasive way, they deserve their own treatment, so that they can learn, vice versa, which applies to ourselves?
As much as I want to sit there and 'talk it out.' Sometimes, 'talking it out,' doesn't resolve the issue, when the other person is out of the communication loop, and doesn't quite have time to realize their intentions aren't in alignment with ours. Even though we want what's best for both, they seem to be in a head space elsewhere? Perhaps, it helps us to re-examine if the people we did/do care for didn't/did at one point in time care for us? Depends on where we are at our lives, if we share similar values or not? If the basis of the relationship was on something superficial, then I would understand that *that* caring was probably reflective of the bond? If that is the case, then it helps me to put things into perspective a bit, and question both parties intentions.
For me, best solution is for us to go our own separate ways figure it out for ourselves in hopes that both of us are safe, and that everything will work out ok. Sometimes, tough love is the best kind of love, when done non-verbally.
I also forgive. I think people have their own ways of figuring out their own lives, hopefully, for the better? No matter what, I still think of the good times, so I don't forget that times we shared happened for a reason.