-What's the best way to persuade you?
Well, it depends on what exactly you're talking about. If you're asking me for your help with something, no doubt about it that I will try to help you in anyway that I can. I honestly wouldn't find a reason to say "no" unless I thought what you were doing was wrong, or I was honestly not able to help you at that time. There's usually no persuasion involved in these types of situations. However, if I see that you're trying to sell me something (like a car or a house), and I really, really don't want it- I will say no, and I'll mean it. Basically, I think that if I care about you and I consider us friends, I'll do anything I can to make you happy.
-How do you want me to approach you?
Smile... be kind. Show me that you're interested in what I'm saying. Give examples and be clear. Instead of being indirect, be direct. An example of this happened last night. I picked my iNtutive friend up to go out with a few other people, when her boyfriend called, and she asked him to hang out with us. He told her he didn't have a ride. So my friend looks at me and goes, "Ahhh my boyfriend doesn't have a ride." She was expecting me to offer and say, "I can get him, no problem." Which wasn't really a problem at all. However, I would have liked it more if she had said "Sarah, do you think you can pick my boyfriend up too, because he doesn't have a ride?" For me, it makes a difference in how someone asks me something. I am more pleased when someone asks up straight up for something.
-What annoys you?
The things that kind of annoys me sometimes with Ns is their vagueness... I need examples and lots of them. Tell me HOW something will better peoples' lives. If you need something, state it clearly... I can't stress that enough.
-If I need to give you information, how do you want me to present it?
Basically just make it clear so I can understand it. If you're giving me directions, tell me what color your house is. Ask me if I need clarification by saying simple things like, "So you got it?" or even "Are you good on that?" These little things can help a lot.
-How can I show you I'm paying attention to the details and that I'm concerned for the personal side of decisions?
During a conversation, you can do a lot of things to show me that you're actually enjoying and paying attention to details. For example, say things like "Yeah, I know what you mean!" because a lot of the times when I'm talking to Ns, they just don't respond to what I'm saying.. like they're in their own little world. A lot of the times I have to ask them if they heard what I was saying. Another thing you can do is ask questions. I personally like it when I say something and someone asks me questions about what I said, such as "Ah, what did you do after?" because it shows me that they are interested in what I am saying and care about the details. You can show you're concerned for the more personal side of decisions by, again, just asking questions, but more geared around feelings. Ask me how something makes me feel, if I need anything, etc.