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I'm attempting to rewire how the typology community thinks about SFJs. Here are just bits and pieces of what I'm working on. Sorry if it's a bit choppy; again, this isn't complete. Let me know how I can adjust and change things.
Extroverted Feeling (Fe)
ESFJs take great joy in their connections with others. Most ESFJ descriptions only focus on immediate, practical relationships. While they are certainly very caring individuals, drawing a great deal of satisfaction from friends, family, and lovers, it cannot be ignored that they are quite often interested in people on a global level. They are passionate people who take their values very seriously. Because of this, it is the ESFJ who spots an injustice and then takes action to correct it. They use their people focus to rally others to join their cause. Activist groups are most likely disproportionately comprised of ESFJs.
Righteous anger is a feeling ESFJs know well. When they see something that crosses one of their values (something incorrectly attributed to IxFPs) they are driven to speak out against it. Less mature ESFJs may have trouble letting things go or accepting that some people may never change their ways. Perhaps this is where the stereotype of non-individualistic values comes from. ESFJs are so passionate about what they believe is right that they may accidentally tread on an another person's alternative perspective, especially if they see this perspective as unjust. They genuinely want to be tolerant people, and usually consider themselves to be, but they are often blind to the fact that they can actually be closed-minded in their efforts to be good.
Example: An ESFJ lives with a friend with opposite opinions on certain key issues. When the news comes on, she makes a political comment, and her friend disagrees. They get into a long-winded, emotional debate that ultimately leads nowhere; the conservative friend simply views things differently. The ESFJ has become upset. Issues are of utmost importance to her, and it hurts that the world can't live up to how she envisions it to be. If she had been healthier, she could have been able to separate her passion from the issue at hand and discuss it more objectively, along with understanding that not every little "injustice" can be conquered in a moment.
ESFJs are interested in people, and enjoy utilizing creative ideas and opportunities to inspire others. A school-aged ESFJ might stick kind notes on people's lockers or, if they are a bit more rebellious (a trait not exclusive to P types), engage in things like "inspirational vandalism." They want to change the world they live in. When they put their minds to it, they can be some of the most influential people of their time.
An ESFJ's Fe also has a personal, internal side to it. It's common for an ESFJ to deal with overemotionality. Fe is an expansive function that can be easily influenced by outside data, other people, and personal impressions. It also needs to be expressed. Some ESFJs may turn to creative pursuits as an outlet; many of today's singers and actors may be Fe-Si types. They are not as superficial as they are portrayed. Many ESFJs are self-aware and spend time finding out who they are. The search for oneself is not limited to Fi types. In fact, it is common of an Fe user to want their outer appearance to be in accordance with their inner appearance, or "show the world who they really are." After all, Fe seeks data and communication with the outside world. Unhealthy ESFJs may be moody, whiny, or even typical "angsty drama queens" (as INFPs are stereotyped to be).
ESFJs do best when they are able to bounce their thoughts, ideas, and feelings off others. They're often very expressive, enthusiastic, and open people. Some say ESFJs are bold with their feelings, as they might not mind sharing themselves with strangers. Others may view them as strikingly honest about their feelings. This mode of openness is natural to a confident ESFJ.
I'm tired and this is all I can do for now. Extended Fe, Si, Ne, and Ti descriptions to come.
Extroverted Feeling (Fe)
ESFJs take great joy in their connections with others. Most ESFJ descriptions only focus on immediate, practical relationships. While they are certainly very caring individuals, drawing a great deal of satisfaction from friends, family, and lovers, it cannot be ignored that they are quite often interested in people on a global level. They are passionate people who take their values very seriously. Because of this, it is the ESFJ who spots an injustice and then takes action to correct it. They use their people focus to rally others to join their cause. Activist groups are most likely disproportionately comprised of ESFJs.
Righteous anger is a feeling ESFJs know well. When they see something that crosses one of their values (something incorrectly attributed to IxFPs) they are driven to speak out against it. Less mature ESFJs may have trouble letting things go or accepting that some people may never change their ways. Perhaps this is where the stereotype of non-individualistic values comes from. ESFJs are so passionate about what they believe is right that they may accidentally tread on an another person's alternative perspective, especially if they see this perspective as unjust. They genuinely want to be tolerant people, and usually consider themselves to be, but they are often blind to the fact that they can actually be closed-minded in their efforts to be good.
Example: An ESFJ lives with a friend with opposite opinions on certain key issues. When the news comes on, she makes a political comment, and her friend disagrees. They get into a long-winded, emotional debate that ultimately leads nowhere; the conservative friend simply views things differently. The ESFJ has become upset. Issues are of utmost importance to her, and it hurts that the world can't live up to how she envisions it to be. If she had been healthier, she could have been able to separate her passion from the issue at hand and discuss it more objectively, along with understanding that not every little "injustice" can be conquered in a moment.
ESFJs are interested in people, and enjoy utilizing creative ideas and opportunities to inspire others. A school-aged ESFJ might stick kind notes on people's lockers or, if they are a bit more rebellious (a trait not exclusive to P types), engage in things like "inspirational vandalism." They want to change the world they live in. When they put their minds to it, they can be some of the most influential people of their time.
An ESFJ's Fe also has a personal, internal side to it. It's common for an ESFJ to deal with overemotionality. Fe is an expansive function that can be easily influenced by outside data, other people, and personal impressions. It also needs to be expressed. Some ESFJs may turn to creative pursuits as an outlet; many of today's singers and actors may be Fe-Si types. They are not as superficial as they are portrayed. Many ESFJs are self-aware and spend time finding out who they are. The search for oneself is not limited to Fi types. In fact, it is common of an Fe user to want their outer appearance to be in accordance with their inner appearance, or "show the world who they really are." After all, Fe seeks data and communication with the outside world. Unhealthy ESFJs may be moody, whiny, or even typical "angsty drama queens" (as INFPs are stereotyped to be).
ESFJs do best when they are able to bounce their thoughts, ideas, and feelings off others. They're often very expressive, enthusiastic, and open people. Some say ESFJs are bold with their feelings, as they might not mind sharing themselves with strangers. Others may view them as strikingly honest about their feelings. This mode of openness is natural to a confident ESFJ.
I'm tired and this is all I can do for now. Extended Fe, Si, Ne, and Ti descriptions to come.