SilkRoad
Lay the coin on my tongue
- Joined
- May 26, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 6w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
I definitely don't fall into this category. I think that in terms of MBTI and enneagram it is people who are sx-first, or possibly ExxPs...generally, anyway.
I haven't had many people hate me or avoid me like the plague. Unless I'm totally deluding myself, it seems as though most people either like me a lot, or like me ok, or are pretty much indifferent to me.
However, I can think of at least a couple of friends (both female), one of whom I think may be ESFP, the other a likely ENFP. From what they've told me, it seems as though they seem to end up the subject of gossip, to form friendships with people and later have those people avoid them completely and/or stab them in the back...etc.
I wonder why this kind of thing seems to happen so much to certain people. There is a small part of me which wonders if maybe they act like bitches to some people and it rebounds on them, and I just don't happen to be a person they act like a bitch to. But honestly, these are people I care about, and about whom I don't have that impression, and I would hate to reach that conclusion.
They are definitely people who go towards others more than I do - although I do come across someone who goes towards others, I know that it has a different tone with me. I get called "open" and "warm" and things like that. The girls I'm thinking of , who are probably ExxPs, are more likely to come across as though they're "interested" if the people they're talking to are men than I ever would - a bit flirtatious, maybe - and even with other women, they might make more personal comments, stand closer, etc than I would do with someone I don't know well.
What do you think of this? Honestly, sometimes I wonder if I seldom/ever seem to polarize people because I just come across as a bit...bland. I know I have good people skills (strong Fe) and that stands me in a good stead, but I can't help wondering if it's only bland personalities who seldom if ever get hated.
I haven't had many people hate me or avoid me like the plague. Unless I'm totally deluding myself, it seems as though most people either like me a lot, or like me ok, or are pretty much indifferent to me.
However, I can think of at least a couple of friends (both female), one of whom I think may be ESFP, the other a likely ENFP. From what they've told me, it seems as though they seem to end up the subject of gossip, to form friendships with people and later have those people avoid them completely and/or stab them in the back...etc.
I wonder why this kind of thing seems to happen so much to certain people. There is a small part of me which wonders if maybe they act like bitches to some people and it rebounds on them, and I just don't happen to be a person they act like a bitch to. But honestly, these are people I care about, and about whom I don't have that impression, and I would hate to reach that conclusion.
They are definitely people who go towards others more than I do - although I do come across someone who goes towards others, I know that it has a different tone with me. I get called "open" and "warm" and things like that. The girls I'm thinking of , who are probably ExxPs, are more likely to come across as though they're "interested" if the people they're talking to are men than I ever would - a bit flirtatious, maybe - and even with other women, they might make more personal comments, stand closer, etc than I would do with someone I don't know well.
What do you think of this? Honestly, sometimes I wonder if I seldom/ever seem to polarize people because I just come across as a bit...bland. I know I have good people skills (strong Fe) and that stands me in a good stead, but I can't help wondering if it's only bland personalities who seldom if ever get hated.