BUT...what I don't pick up on you mmhmm...either because you don't experience this or I just don't see it in you because I don't know you well enough...is that my friend is not totally in control of her anger. I mean...NOT like she is exploding in anger around me or other people (I couldn't handle that)...but there is a frustration there...right below the surface...that makes me suspect her life-system isn't working in its entirety - if that makes sense. And the thing that struggle with...is that it is her-way-or-the-highway. Like I could relate so well to SilkRoad's statement 'I'm not her'. Like...I must adhere to her 'WE STAY POSITIVE ALWAYS' standard...while my way to experience life is dismissed. It is difficult to explain.
hahaha i totally understand. completely.
you describe me quite well! the right below
the surface bit - that's exactly me. it's always
bubbling underneath me, but that's the very
thing that gets me to squash stuff right away
you know? but it doesn't necessarily mean
my life is out of whack, it's more like how i work.
"my way or the highway" hahaha! yes, yes! guilty too.
and much more so when i was younger, because i
always thought i was right (ie. judging people hehehe:
i'll get 'vibes' about people, pass a judgement, and
everybody around me thinks i'm just being too
judgmental [i am]--but then sometimes after
a while they will see my viewpoint even though they
may have rejected it initially.) and i'm never hesitant
to say 'i told you so' no matter how long it's been.
people flipflop all the time thus the love for possibilities.
hahahah i know i can be such a dick sometimes.
but it's kinda funny for me you know? especially
now, because i can take it more in a lighthearted
way, and i think this has to do a lot with growing
up and appreciating differences and become more
aware of my own strengths and weaknesses,
limitations, tolerance of certain things. stuff like that.
but it's just more because i've always known what i want,
even as a kid (i hate being refused), and when you're young,
i didn't really quite understand yet the about the complexities
of different personalities (still don't) let alone my own self?
(oh boy i'm always having belief bubbles bursting all around
me you know? pop pop pop. eyes wider everyday). so it also
might be an age / maturity thing too?
(still not to my point yet) (see? have to work out my thoughts
and i get carried away by going off on tangents: and a lot of
times people take it as i dismiss what they say... but i can't help
it) (seeeee?!!!) have to work it outloud: so i just end up talking
about myself. so that sometimes comes across as my way or
the highway. but i try to work on it.
What I couldn't figure out though from SilkRoad's subsequent messages was whether or not her ENFP was 8w7 or 7w6. Because my 'advice' would be actually be different in both cases. In all honesty...if she was 8w7...I would say...'Yup...sorry SilkRoad...you are just going to have to deal.' Because I can't talk to my 8w7 friend about this. She MUST figure out everything on her own...and if I am to hang-out with her...I just need to curb my behavior (this is not a 'bad' thing in my mind...it is just how it is). But I'm thinking if SilkRoad's ENFP was 7w6 there may be some 'wiggle-room'. It has been my experience that my 7w6 ENFPs are more 'accomodating' (if you can get them to focus/understand the issue you are having) than my 8w7 friend.
I can't figure out if SilkRoad's ENFP is adopting this philosophy because she actually believes it (which would be more 8w7 to me)...or if it is because she is profoundly fearful (7w6) and looking for a quick-fix. Something started to make me think SilkRoad's ENFP is scared. And yes...projecting her 'new life philosophy' on her...in an almost 'panicked' way. Yet again...it is not even remotely unusual for an average ENFP to say these kind of *let's all be happy* things...merely to inspire...but not to the extent that SilkRoad describes. I actually don't know what to think. I doubt I'm even making sense anymore LOL.
to the bolded, yes. for me, i think it's a combination
of having been disappointed in the past and experience
that's led me to truly believe that the only person i can
depend on is myself. this doesn't mean that i want to reject
helping hands but i know how a lot of times things will play
out. if anything, i'd love take a break for once. you know?
to really really take up on that extended helping hand. i've
tried before, and that's what a lot of times have led to
disappointment. so it's just better if i take care of it.
but not because i reject the entire notion of being
disappointed--because i mean, people get disappointed,
but if i can counter any unnecessary disappointment,
why not right?
i have no idea if i even answered your points. hahahha.