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This almost exactly for me too.
^^
I'd add that while I hate conflict, I wish for issues to be resolved- if I see a pattern that's going to continue, longterm, it needs to be discussed & dealt with, if & whenever possible. The sooner the better, in most cases, providing both parties are calm/receptive.
"Conflict" is not always synonymous with "fight," in my mind. This approach will always depend on the individuals involved, and the context of the situation at hand, of course.
@the OP - I think a lot of the denial/defensiveness is coming from an perpetuating dysfunctional family dynamic.. it's a cycle that's hard to break, and potentially independent of type, entirely, as it will occur with other types, as well, under similar circumstances. There's something feeding the behavior, some core there that needs to be examined, if that makes sense.