Neutralpov
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I recetly feel I came out of the year of a quarter-life-crisis for whatever that is worth.
I brielfy skimmed this book The 20 Something Manifesto a year ago and was re-eximing the book and Typology central and I think Typology central threads miss an emotional or internal struggle component that NFs might understand.
The internal feelings, mental work, and exhausting investigation in the this quarter-life-crisis felt rough! Just emotionally draining and painful internally and some google searches made me feel sane about the questions I was dealing with and that am not alone.
I was just curious if anyone else has examples and or some understanding on that internal process or more than just, yeah some people have a crisis and not just validation. I am thinking NFs potentially have a great perspective on this subject and I haven't gotten to in my counseling classes.
(For long posts here are some examples on my last year's changes due to the quarter-life crisis I see in hindsight. First I got my own place downtown to learn about myself and be 100% independent and live a fun life. Last september realized I had bad boundaries, 2 bad friends (the thread on emotional needs was started by me) and got rid of the toxic INFP, ISFJ ex-bffs, got a second job at night to save for traveling- Fall 2009. Next went to Europe in Jan 2010, applied and got into graduate school and began in 2010 in Student Services/counseling, joined online dating with Match.com and went on lots of dates and turned down 2 offers to become exlusive because I knew they wernt "it", went out downtown in city to clubs (got drunk multiple times which used to be wrong religiously) in the summer 2010 for 3 months straight, stopped religious practice (first time in my life!) and decided on my own that beliefs were different for me than past (semi-existential now) and that one was a serious process and also semi-painful, also tried meditation for the first time. Also decided that openly showing disagreement and anger was okay in context of good friendships which surprised the friendships. That brings the list up to now! Currently just wishing I had the bff role in my life filled. Back to the ENFJ or social variant problem of lots of friends, no deep one. That I am being patient on this time around!)
I brielfy skimmed this book The 20 Something Manifesto a year ago and was re-eximing the book and Typology central and I think Typology central threads miss an emotional or internal struggle component that NFs might understand.
The internal feelings, mental work, and exhausting investigation in the this quarter-life-crisis felt rough! Just emotionally draining and painful internally and some google searches made me feel sane about the questions I was dealing with and that am not alone.
I was just curious if anyone else has examples and or some understanding on that internal process or more than just, yeah some people have a crisis and not just validation. I am thinking NFs potentially have a great perspective on this subject and I haven't gotten to in my counseling classes.
(For long posts here are some examples on my last year's changes due to the quarter-life crisis I see in hindsight. First I got my own place downtown to learn about myself and be 100% independent and live a fun life. Last september realized I had bad boundaries, 2 bad friends (the thread on emotional needs was started by me) and got rid of the toxic INFP, ISFJ ex-bffs, got a second job at night to save for traveling- Fall 2009. Next went to Europe in Jan 2010, applied and got into graduate school and began in 2010 in Student Services/counseling, joined online dating with Match.com and went on lots of dates and turned down 2 offers to become exlusive because I knew they wernt "it", went out downtown in city to clubs (got drunk multiple times which used to be wrong religiously) in the summer 2010 for 3 months straight, stopped religious practice (first time in my life!) and decided on my own that beliefs were different for me than past (semi-existential now) and that one was a serious process and also semi-painful, also tried meditation for the first time. Also decided that openly showing disagreement and anger was okay in context of good friendships which surprised the friendships. That brings the list up to now! Currently just wishing I had the bff role in my life filled. Back to the ENFJ or social variant problem of lots of friends, no deep one. That I am being patient on this time around!)