disregard
mrs
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- INFP
I keep seeing the statement that NF live to accommodate others, while NT live to seek truth. Questions like this make me re-think the whole business of type all over again.
I do not accommodate others very much in my life. I don't particularly like to compromise or conform to what others want me to do and I certainly don't live to compromise or conform. I'll do it to get along at work or to please someone very close to me but I don't live for it and I find it extremely unpleasant when I have to.
I have my own idea of truth based on this and I would not compromise this to please someone else or to accommodate for them...at least not without feeling great pain that I had betrayed my own beliefs. I would see that as a denial of my own personal truth and one of the most self-damaging things I could do.
What do other NF think about this? Do you really live to compromise and conform to what others want you to be or do for them?
This was a big roadblock in accepting my type, but now that you express experiencing the same issue, I feel better.
Much to the disappointment of my ESFJ mother, I am not accommodating unless I'm so inclined. If only! I have to force myself to accommodate people (and I usually fail to carry out the act). Maybe because I'm introverted. Maybe because my Fi says "A, B, and C are not consistent with that in which you place great importance".