ThatsWhatHeSaid
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I've got a disabled housemate. He's 62, is blind in one eye, has diabetes, gets dialysis 3x a week, and is schizophrenic (historically). He's a nice guy, but he asks for a lot of favor, specifically, he asks for me to drive him around. This is the 3rd or fourth time he's asked in 6 weeks, and it usually ends up being a 5-6 hour production. He's invited me places, but I think it was more for a ride to and fro than for my company (music rehearsal and play he wrote). Last week he asked me to take him to buy a new chair for his room. The place is about 40 minutes away, and in LA traffic, probably an hour or more. I blew it off a bit. Tonight he asked me to him to get a belt, to Target, about 20 minutes away. He then asked me to take him apartment hunting, because he's considering moving out soon.
On the one hand, I want to be nice. I don't think he's TOTALLY using me, but I think he's partially using me, and partially just expecting this out of friendship. He might be the type of person to return favors like these; I'm not sure, since I don't ask for favors. If he's leaving, then theoretically, there won't be too many more impositions. Also, I don't really have that much to do, but I do enjoy my relaxation time, and I just broke up with my girl, so I have some things to think about. On the other hand, I'm getting annoyed and starting to feel like a chauffeur. What would you do? What's the ideal thing to do?
On the one hand, I want to be nice. I don't think he's TOTALLY using me, but I think he's partially using me, and partially just expecting this out of friendship. He might be the type of person to return favors like these; I'm not sure, since I don't ask for favors. If he's leaving, then theoretically, there won't be too many more impositions. Also, I don't really have that much to do, but I do enjoy my relaxation time, and I just broke up with my girl, so I have some things to think about. On the other hand, I'm getting annoyed and starting to feel like a chauffeur. What would you do? What's the ideal thing to do?