I wonder if you're very young, because this reminds me of when I was in my late teens/early twenties and sex and intimate love were still somewhat divided.
Then I grew out of that. As far as I know, people are supposed to.
If you think you'll be closer to your platonic female friends than someone they have a real, adult relationship with, I think you have another thing coming.
No offense.
I don't have surface level relationships. To me it just sounds like you're justifying being friend zoned, and you don't even understand what I or skylights am talking about.
I think you are INFP for other reasons that what I've seen in this thread, but I just voiced it now, because I felt sure. I won't bring it up any longer if it bothers you.
you are coming off as sounding extremely condescending, seriously, you say no offense, but you clearly seem to mean to offend, this is quite out of line from what ive seen from you in the past, so for the time being, I will consider it just a major misunderstanding, and hope it is that.
As for your statements, It is actually only young people ive known that seem to consider sex and imtimate love the same, where as most older people I know 40+ seem to consider them separate, so your statement on this makes little sense to me, and btw, im almost as old as you...
I say im closer to my platonic female friends than they are to their SO's because that is what they have told ME, I do not assume I am, they have all said so, which was rather shocking to me when It first started happening, it is obviously not the case with every female friend ive made, but the ones I actually consider close friends, rather than friendly Acquaintances, seem to consider us much more intimately close than they are with their SO's.
I think being able to be close intimate friends with some one without sex being involved, is far more of a "real adult relationship." than believing one needs sex to be close to some one.
I never said you did, and did not mean to imply you did (as that seems to be what you believe I did.) I was just expressing that I have been stating this entire time that i want to develop deep relationships, and that playing games for control get in the way of that, if it doesnt with you, then thats great, that is why I did not address your earlier statements saying it works for you, BECAUSE I am not YOU, I have no clue what does or does not work for you, so I did not argue that point, if it works for you, then great! it doesnt for me, I cannot be close to some one that plays control games.
From what I can tell, me and skylights have a pretty good understanding of each others views, and share extremely similar ones, I enjoy being in the friend zone, I have love and acceptance there, and sex is not important to me, so I dont see why I wouldnt enjoy being in the friend zone... its better than being in their "Danger zzone" (lol) and not being close friends with them...lol
But seriously, if you are going to clearly state things you know to obviously be offensive, dont say "no offense" afterwards, that actually bothers me more than the offensive comments,lol.