Hi there! i'm sorry but i'm just not following you here. if you feel like elaborating, i'd appreciate that. I guess we were talking about two different things regarding women. i was talking about women who can't find Mr Right for whatever reason(s), and how they can become more independent along the way, not clingy.
If anyone, women or men, 'settle' for someone not their type, then i see long term consequences on the horizon for them. Or maybe not every relationship is meant to last very long; there are many paradigms for relationship.
The key, I believe, for a person trying to find a mate, is figuring out
who he is, and dealing with any issues from life he may have accumulated, if any, that could make him unable to love someone else 100%. Then, after he has done that, he can figure out what type woman he really needs/desires. If he desires one type for, say sex or fun, but another type to marry, there is a problem there, imo, and he wouldn't appear to be ready to find a mate, or settle down. I'm not saying you are like this at all. I'm speaking generally.
However, you talk of 'hunks' and 'babes' and post pics of a group of perfect stereotypical hotties, then you complain about not being able to find a nice woman who wants you. Just sayin'. Maybe you are conflicted yourself as to what you want. Maybe you are subconsciously sending out that message that nice women pick up on. Do you want a smart, nice companion, or do you want a hot babe to hang on your arm like a trophy?
But, like most guys, you prolly want both.
Hey, if INFP guys need a woman to initiate and stuff, I am sure it wouldn't be hard to find that kind of woman. If prisoners on death row can find a woman to love them through being mere pen pals, I am sure hooking up with a woman wouldn't be too difficult, even for an INFP male.