edit: being more specific to your situation, what kind of longboards? do some internet read ups on carving/leaning into turns. brainstorm some good hills/runs around you. do this with him/talk about it.
He is extremely good at boarding. I'm just learning but I can keep up. He has a loaded pintail, rayne demonseed, flex dex mini (I'm getting a cometn FSM) but we skate with a group & we have about 8 boards altogether. He
loves building 'em. He has a little notebook with all the boards he wants to put together some day. I'm going to get him a lot of parts from the list for Christmas so he can just build them. Brainstorming & looking for hills is a good idea because we know a lot of them in town but he is
always talking about wanting to find more.
We actually cook all the time together. He really likes that. I just let him chill today. He was in a surprisingly good mood so I didn't really bug him with anything. He did help me with my homemade eggnog though! I bought a lot of weird stuff to cook with today, so I'll just give him an ingredient & challenge him to invent something we haven't done before.
PS: Also, there is this ENFJ that I know that likes to brood whenever our conversation gets awkward. Please please please do not sulk in front of us. Don't think we won't notice. Se sees in all direction and picks up the slightest cues. Hide in a room, pretend to do something, but don't give us more reasons to feel bad.
Believe me, I try. Yeah, I'm actually doing this because I'm trying to pull back on that kind of thing. We are trying to work some things out & I'm trying to keep it light. I'm not with him all the time but when I am home, while we're dealing with this, I'd like to be able to fill in the space with something nicely distracting to keep him encouraged & keep me from thinking about our issues when I don't really need to.
And the hiding in rooms, pretending to do something doesn't always work either. Unless you do it & get a poker face on again
really quickly. But you should be aware that even though ENFJs "sulking" appears manipulative, its not really intentional &
very difficult to control. Turning off our negative feelings in the middle of something that's feeding them could be as difficult for us as you trying to conjure genuine heart wrenching misery in the middle of your favorite activity. It happens when we run out of ideas & start to feel powerless. We are INTENSE feelers & it overpowers our rationality. That bad feeling just sort of turns into this overwhelming "bummer" mode that makes us drop our heads & sigh like the whole world's coming apart. And the intensity of it may bum you out to such an extent, or seem so dramatic & unreasonable that it appears we are very aware what reaction we're going to get out of you... and are doing
to get that reaction. This is NEVER the reason for me. I actually feel compounded negative emotions when I sulk... because of the guilt that comes with knowing that, while I am overreacting, I am making someone feel obligated to help me because of the intensity of it, I can't stop it right away or take it back when its done. It takes a great deal of effort to catch the "sulk" before it shows itself. Ever actually physically "felt" yourself swallow an emotion? Sometimes I think it can be worse that just letting yourself get swept up in it.
Not saying that ENFJs don't know this is manipulative. Some may use it to intentionally get reactions out of you I guess... but if they are I really don't think they could actually be emotionally turned on (meaning, the sulk is fake). Because the guilt
always seems to accompany the negative emotions.
It really bothers & worries me that my ISTP thinks I have better control over my emotional expressions than I let on... or rather, thinks I don't actively work on suppressing their intensity so I don't have outbursts. He should know how much I do hold back & self soothe because we both crave & deserve some peace. I actually do this for some positive emotions too, which can be
way too over the top to be validated by him. But he should still realize feelings become valid once they are felt, regardless of where they came from. Because they become as influential as anything solid once they are there. Suppressing them doesn't make them disappear & can be nearly impossible if they are right in your face & you can't look around them because they are so intense.