ReadingRainbows
Cat Wench
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- 6w7
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- sx/sp
79% Eros, 14% Ludus, 11% Storge, 18% Pragma, 46% Mania, 75% Agape
How has almost every single person on this thread scored high for eros?
I scored equally high on Eros and Storge.
*The Storge lover is someone who builds a love relationship on a strong base of friendship. The goal is: A companionable, secure, trusting relationship with a partner who is similar in terms of attitudes and values. This similarity is much more important to Storge than physical appearance or sexual satisfaction because this orientation to love is more likely to seek long-term commitment rather than short-term excitement. (S. Hendrick & Hendrick, 1992, p. 65)
Storgic lovers are friends first. Storgic love develops gradually out of friendship, and the friendship can endure beyond the breakup of the relationship. Storgic lovers choose their mates based on homogamy, and sometimes cannot pinpoint the moment that friendship turned to love. Storgic lovers want their significant others to also be their best friends.
Storgic lovers place much importance on commitment, and find their motivation to avoid committing infidelity is to preserve the trust between the partners. Children and marriage are seen as legitimate forms of their bond. Sex is of lesser importance than in some of the other love styles.
The advantage of storgic love is the level of intimacy between the partners. The disadvantage is boredom and lack of passion.
How has almost every single person on this thread scored high for eros?
89% Storge friendship
82% Eros passion
82% Pragma practical
54% Ludus game playing
46% Mania possessive, dependent
29% Agape selfless
Because it's important? It differentiates romantic love from friendship? (As in it's necessary but not sufficient.)
No, but I took this same test in a college classroom and only 1 other person besides myself tested high for eros.
Really? Are you sure it wasn't a far more complex and "official" version of the test then? Only one other person? I find that hard to believe, especially amongst college-aged individuals.
I tend to see Eros and Ludus as the most sexualized version of love, with Eros being romantic/committed sexual love and Ludus being a very no-strings-attached form of sexual love.
I would think that most people if they weren't asexual would have one or both somewhere near the top, even if it wasn't their main priority.