poppy
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- Joined
- May 30, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- intj
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I agree with Lethe, although your comment about your sister in law came off as callous, I can't see an INTJ becoming so upset about it that they would end their friendship with you, so chances are there were other factors involved for him (probably other issues in your friendship). Personally I don't always find it that easy to break it off with a friend, especially one I've been very close to, and I've resorted to a similar method of avoidance. If you want to be able repair the relationship in the future, you might try to get a little closure now, but don't push too hard as he might find it threatening. It's possible that your friend will realize (maybe in quite a while) that your companionship is still a valid and good thing in his life. Then again, it's possible that he won't, and you shouldn't be expected to wait around with your heart open until then.
But yes, sometimes INTJs will ditch out of a relationship, especially if the person involved complicates their life...and it isn't really very considerate, but I promise it wasn't an easy decision for your friend to make, if in fact he's completely written you off.
But yes, sometimes INTJs will ditch out of a relationship, especially if the person involved complicates their life...and it isn't really very considerate, but I promise it wasn't an easy decision for your friend to make, if in fact he's completely written you off.