professor goodstain
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To synapseTAKE MY ADVICE: I've dealt with this before. If you want to be with her you must follow this exactly:
1.) Do NOT try to contact her way too much.
2.) Limit yourself to 1 text a week. unless she initiates.
3.) 1 call every month. unless she initiates.
4.) 3 posts/messages/pic comments/wall comments etc a month to her social messaging site (facebook myspace twitter etc).
5.) Be her FRIEND. Because when this guy she is with leaves, then you are her friend. The best attribute of being a friend to a girl that you like is you can get a LOT of face time with her and that way you can slowly move in on her.
6.) Timing is everything, how it starts is how it ends, you rushing in quickly and swiftly, it will end the same way. Slow and cautiously, same ending. Unless of course you marry her, BUT RUSHING IN WILL GET YOU NO WHERE. be PATIENT.
7.) Live your life, have fun, don't think about her too much.
8.) More friendship=more love=more chance of romance.
Trust me. Just trust me.
1) Don't contact her at all. Yet, everytime you see her in person, feel free to talk just the same as you did before. Almost as if you are developing a friendship or something.
2) Don't text at all until you are friends.
3) Even when you become friends, don't call at all because she is busy with her life at the moment.
4) No post at all on her social messaging sites (if she has any at all). How did you come accross her sites in the first place? Are you stalking her?
5) What, is she a side of beef? Who said this guy she is with will leave? If he does, sais something for shallowness on either side. Why assume he will leave? Is she not good enough? She's not gonna notice these expectations and conspiring? Would you want to give her this impression when you only trying to develope a friendship?
6) Timing is nothing. What's trying to be givin here is a prescription. Is nature ever receptive of a preplanned list? Becoming friends doesn't rush nor slug, it happens.
7) Live and have fun and don't think about her too much because that's what you would have done if you were already her friend.
8) More friendship=no stalking=no prescription=nature=no checklist=letting a friendship happen in the first place.
If you conspire you will get called on premeditation if you havn't already.