Jonathanthegreat
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- Joined
- Apr 30, 2009
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- 166
- MBTI Type
- ENFJ
The persistence you are describing is NOT selfless. You might think so but you wouldn't be doing it if you were getting nothing out of it or hoping to. Your ace in the hole here is using "love" as the excuse. That's fucking with people. That's manipulation.
It is selfless because I'm gaining nothing from it, only showing that I truly care about her despite anything. It's termed "agape" love, unconditional love. Look it up.
If this isn't manipulation, I don't know what is. Especially #5. Nice way to creepily fuck with someone's head...
Then you don't know what manipulation is.
Manipulation: To control someone/thing unfairly or unscrupulously.
Being a girl's friend, that you like is not a wrong thing to do. That's how the majority of successful relationships start, through friendship.
1) Frankly, this strikes me as delving deeper into the realms of personal abuse than the comment that led to it warranted. Whatever you think of INTJ123's analysis, there wasn't any name calling.
No name calling, you are right. I just don't like being told I am manipulative because no one on this forum has the just ability to decide that. Additionally I'm not being manipulative. I just hate that word and being called it. Instead of keeping the anger inside, which most people do, I decided to vent. Because it indeed angered me to the point of expressing myself.
I'm so glad my life's events draw in your concern and input
I shall use all this information to my benefit.