Is it persistence in pursuing? Basically just showing her that you'll care for her FOREVER, and won't stop. unless she's married of course.I read everywhere that persistence is key to success to a lot of things. Any mature women who would like to comment on this subject matter, that would be awesome. Give me your insight!!!
I'm afraid I can't help you; I'm still trying to figure out how exactly I won my girl's heart.
Your an INFJ male.....girls cannot help but hand over those hearts to you guys!
(even other infjs....)
TAKE MY ADVICE: I've dealt with this before. If you want to be with her you must follow this exactly:
1.) Do NOT try to contact her way too much.
2.) Limit yourself to 1 text a week. unless she initiates.
3.) 1 call every month. unless she initiates.
4.) 3 posts/messages/pic comments/wall comments etc a month to her social messaging site (facebook myspace twitter etc).
5.) Be her FRIEND. Because when this guy she is with leaves, then you are her friend. The best attribute of being a friend to a girl that you like is you can get a LOT of face time with her and that way you can slowly move in on her.
6.) Timing is everything, how it starts is how it ends, you rushing in quickly and swiftly, it will end the same way. Slow and cautiously, same ending. Unless of course you marry her, BUT RUSHING IN WILL GET YOU NO WHERE. be PATIENT.
7.) Live your life, have fun, don't think about her too much.
8.) More friendship=more love=more chance of romance.
Trust me. Just trust me.
Persistence in pursuit tends to have a negative connotation in my experience. It can feel like intrusion, disrespect, and entitlement. It has never worked. This is especially true if I have created a boundary to stop or minimize the pursuit that is ignored. The following are important.
Honesty
Willingness to listen and respond in a meaningful way.
Ability to see and appreciate what I have to offer that is different than a million other people.
Oh, I WANT to know. *clutches both hands*
I think just being myself is what got me into this mess in the first place.
A guy can win my heart simply by giving me his. Men past adolescence don't seem to be very up to this idea. Y'all keep your hearts on close watch. But putting someone's needs above your own and forgetting all the petty crap will make any heart melt.
How so?
Well, it's not so much being myself I suppose, as much as no one I could even remotely have a decent conversation with where I am.
At least not with scaring them the hell off. >.>
I see. I know the feeling, to an extent. Trust me, there's not a lot of intelligence where I'm from. One reason why I'm glad I'm imaginative. ; I can keep myself occupied.
What is it like where you are?