Not that I claim to be speaking for ISTPs (hey, I might not even be one....I might just be a garden variety antisocial person). But I will say that I see this level of patience in IFJs. I think they both take time to sort other people's problems out as well. Perhaps that's tertiary Ti. Or perhaps they're just more generous. I think about things as they come and what interests me. And it usually doesn't involve your kitchen sink or emotional issues.
Maybe even ESTPs have a better EFJ side. They're kind of popular for more than just the obvious reasons. I mean, they're more social in general. And more to power to them. I just never wanted to be like that. "Everybody's hero". Sounds like a pain in the ass.
I have always been strange as I have always enjoyed fixing and doing things. Hell, I dont even have cable/directv/or an antenna. Unless my son is here my TV almost never goes on. I have no desire to be a hero, it feels good to help, but for some stupid crazy reason I love to push myself physically and do things for others. I am not anti-social in the sense that others push people away or get in fights or arguments, I just have a habit of walking off whenever I want. Sometimes someone wants to tag along, sometimes its just me.
I personally know I cant "fix" people and half the time I dont even know what to say. I dont mind talking, but fixing is never on my radar. I just am more of a voice of reason.
If we're talking about people, I'm pretty sure 3 ISTPs I know unconsciously desire this. Anything else results in them becoming bored and creating something to fix on their own. Same for a few other IxTx types I've seen. I know not all IxTx's are that way though. I can see most of them feeling put off by this.
Yes this is the point I'm trying to figure out, it's not consciously but unconsciously I find myself being attracted to "broken" people I suppose. I'm not sure if broken is the word though maybe hot tempered or excitable.
Yes this is the point I'm trying to figure out, it's not consciously but unconsciously I find myself being attracted to "broken" people I suppose. I'm not sure if broken is the word though maybe hot tempered or excitable.
So you like the hot tempered types? haha.. I can't stand it. We must be different types then. I can't even stand it with my family. My old man is like this. As I grow older, it seems like I'm the one dishing out a bit of tough love his way. It's kind of weird actually.
You're turning into your old man???
So you like the hot tempered types? haha.. I can't stand it. We must be different types then. I can't even stand it with my family. My old man is like this. As I grow older, it seems like I'm the one dishing out a bit of tough love his way. It's kind of weird actually.
My ISTP would never dream of helping fix people problems. It isnt that he doesnt care, but I dont think he knows what to do and so would just rather withdraw and avoid it.
He does fix all types of things for me, even though we are now divorced. He put in new light fixtures, fixed stuff in my car, and changed out some electrical stuff in the walls. I think this is how he shows he cares.
I do suspect that ISTPs may often end up in relationships with FPs, who can look sort of FJish at times as we can be pretty sweet. However when unhappy or depressed, we display a LOT of emo, which I suspect most ISTPs would have a very difficult time navigating. Thus it would not surpise me to find out that an ISTP ended up with an FP, who, from the ISTP perspective, had emo issues. I have seen this same problem with INTPs too, in relationships with FPs. So maybe it isnt that ISTP seek emotionally distrubed people-but it seems natural at first, then they get surprised once in the relationship as each side becomes more open and sharing. Sad Fi is BAD. I dunno, maybe that is part of what you see..
If we're talking about people, I'm pretty sure 3 ISTPs I know unconsciously desire this. Anything else results in them becoming bored and creating something to fix on their own. Same for a few other IxTx types I've seen. I know not all IxTx's are that way though. I can see most of them feeling put off by this.
What's the difference between display and projection?Display of emo I have no problems with, projection of emo though is another story.