And another +1 from me.
I'm better at this via instant messenger or email... It gives me time to think about the subject matter and sort it all out. I can backspace and change wording so it's more accurate. My first thoughts on how I feel are usually very elementary like "good or bad" which is generally enough for me, so doing this in person (with someone who wants and expects me to "explain") would be an awful conversation 'cause I'd have to think about this stuff faster which just doesn't work. I'd shut down and change the topic by making a funny face or going to the kitchen and finding something to eat...I'm so weird
Of course it depends on the topic.
Steph put it well - if it's something I've had plenty of time to think about and I'm fairly at peace with it, then I don't mind talking about it...even if it would have been painful at the time that it happened.
Just reading the original post made me shut down a bit. Clearly writing about this helps, lol. I thought "AAAAAAH! EW FEELINGS! Get them away from meeeeeeee!" I saw the post before any replies were made...went to a meeting, saw some replies and then I started piecing together a reply of my own. It's a lengthy process