Also, as an SP myself (not sure how it works for you) I bond really easily with people in general by just DOING something with them. Anything really. Taking a drive, going someplace etc. And SJs seem to enjoy doing things;
Interesting you should say that. My ISFJ was in tears a few days ago, saying, "I can sense that you don't enjoy us spending time together..." I didn't think it showed. :rolli: So I had to offer reassurance that, "yes, I do enjoy spending time together, but you know I don't enjoy chit-chat." We've both joked about that being a weakness of my temperament. And I suggested that we do something together instead of sitting looking at each other over our drinks making small talk. I would enjoy completing a mundane household chore together.
But this is for ISTJ questions, and I've veered off into ISFJ talk.