silverrose
New member
- Joined
- Mar 29, 2011
- Messages
- 25
- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 4
I don't think it's really possible to be both because one uses Si+Ne and one uses Ni+Se, but I'm having a really hard time figuring out which of the two I am. or am I something else? So. I wanna see if y'all can help meh.
-I can empathize with people REALLY easily. I feel like I know what they're going through without trying. This has often led me to be submissive or to ignore my own needs.
-I can have a pretty hard time denying people my help or asserting myself. Examples: my SO occasionally has these big fights with another (female) friend of his. Because they are horrible at communication I'll spend my whole week listening to one rant and then go tell the other what they need to know to patch things up, back and forth. I feel very unappreciated for my deep understanding and peacemaking ablilites. Or when I'm angry and my family members and they ask me to do something, I automatically do it anyways.
-I can size people up at a glance, usually by looking in their eyes.
-Normally I have a hard time doing stuff I know will hurt people. Like telling stupid flirts to leave me alone or not talk to me. If I know someone really well though, I won't be nearly as careful with their feelings. I may even use my sharp logic and biting sarcasm (Ti?) to pick them to pieces.
-I can extrovert pretty well at times. So much so that my ESTP sister thinks I'm an extrovert. When I extrovert, I usually come off as naive, bubbly, imaginative, highly spontaneous, silly, and careless of what people think of me. However, it's all a part of my plot. I'm usually doing it to keep the atmosphere happy and amusing and comfortable, so I am careful never to go too far. I can snap out of it into a different mode in a second if someone needs me to, like if my ESTP sister is going too far in her pranks and someone needs me to champion them.
-Especially when I'm with a large group of friends, I always carefully monitor the environment even whilst I'm having fun to make sure no one is being treated badly. If they are, I immediately feel a kind of spicy anger which I channel into subtly both avenging them and making sure people include them/are nice to them.
- I can size people up at a glance, usually by looking in their eyes. I almost never wrong.
-If someone is feeling some kind of negative emotion, I immediately set to finding out why, often kind of obsessively. I can have a hard time consoling people or I feel awkward doing it, so I usually start by helping them talk through it, and once I have gauged the situation thus I use my silly humor to distract them and lighten their mood. Highly effective.
-Over time I have developed the theory that nearly ALL conflict is the result of people not understanding each other. I am highly attuned to conflict or misunderstanding in the environment and I feel stressed until I work it out, and then usually for a while afterwords. it depresses me.
-I yearn for emotional closeness when I care about ppl
-I NEED time to myself to sort out my feelings
-I'm good at languages, reading, ect, have always been huge on art, and love writing and inventing worlds
-I'm good at picking up on the underlying principles or patterns in a situation
-I like romantic books, but not cheesy or shallow romance. I've read like every classic novel out there, too
-I LOVE thinking through complex problems, am really good at science, quick at picking up on math IF AND ONLY IF I understand the theory.
-Since I was young, I've always been a deep thinker. I'd get in trouble for being disrespectful to my parents and cruel to my siblings if they were illogical
-I looooove formal debate because I get to get to the root of a problem and annihilate it without people feeling hurt. I dislike debating about people's personal ideas because 1) I don't want to hurt them but more often 2) I don't want to be rejected for my ideas and worldview
-interested in topics like history, philosophy, lit, politics, economics, psychology, ect
-I have a hard time sharing how I feel or what I am thinking and I hate unloading my problems on people
-I feel like I live for the future but I don't think about it very much. I'm always looking forward to the future, especially my years of higher education and then my family. However, it also scares me a little to think that I might not have my same friends
-I am pretty ambitious academically. If I want to learn something or if I am intellectually curious about something, I will pursue it aggressively
-I hate exerting myself physically so I exhaust myself, but I can easily forget to feed myself, rest, ect if I am doing something I love. I am good at things like sewing and cooking or any physical thing where I am not actually focusing on my body. Like soccer- if it engages me mentally I don't care so much about tiring myself
Lol. Wow. That's enough for now. If you have questions, feel free to ask me. Hopefully this will be enough to make it pretty clear to you what I am. *sighs*
-I can empathize with people REALLY easily. I feel like I know what they're going through without trying. This has often led me to be submissive or to ignore my own needs.
-I can have a pretty hard time denying people my help or asserting myself. Examples: my SO occasionally has these big fights with another (female) friend of his. Because they are horrible at communication I'll spend my whole week listening to one rant and then go tell the other what they need to know to patch things up, back and forth. I feel very unappreciated for my deep understanding and peacemaking ablilites. Or when I'm angry and my family members and they ask me to do something, I automatically do it anyways.
-I can size people up at a glance, usually by looking in their eyes.
-Normally I have a hard time doing stuff I know will hurt people. Like telling stupid flirts to leave me alone or not talk to me. If I know someone really well though, I won't be nearly as careful with their feelings. I may even use my sharp logic and biting sarcasm (Ti?) to pick them to pieces.
-I can extrovert pretty well at times. So much so that my ESTP sister thinks I'm an extrovert. When I extrovert, I usually come off as naive, bubbly, imaginative, highly spontaneous, silly, and careless of what people think of me. However, it's all a part of my plot. I'm usually doing it to keep the atmosphere happy and amusing and comfortable, so I am careful never to go too far. I can snap out of it into a different mode in a second if someone needs me to, like if my ESTP sister is going too far in her pranks and someone needs me to champion them.
-Especially when I'm with a large group of friends, I always carefully monitor the environment even whilst I'm having fun to make sure no one is being treated badly. If they are, I immediately feel a kind of spicy anger which I channel into subtly both avenging them and making sure people include them/are nice to them.
- I can size people up at a glance, usually by looking in their eyes. I almost never wrong.
-If someone is feeling some kind of negative emotion, I immediately set to finding out why, often kind of obsessively. I can have a hard time consoling people or I feel awkward doing it, so I usually start by helping them talk through it, and once I have gauged the situation thus I use my silly humor to distract them and lighten their mood. Highly effective.
-Over time I have developed the theory that nearly ALL conflict is the result of people not understanding each other. I am highly attuned to conflict or misunderstanding in the environment and I feel stressed until I work it out, and then usually for a while afterwords. it depresses me.
-I yearn for emotional closeness when I care about ppl
-I NEED time to myself to sort out my feelings
-I'm good at languages, reading, ect, have always been huge on art, and love writing and inventing worlds
-I'm good at picking up on the underlying principles or patterns in a situation
-I like romantic books, but not cheesy or shallow romance. I've read like every classic novel out there, too
-I LOVE thinking through complex problems, am really good at science, quick at picking up on math IF AND ONLY IF I understand the theory.
-Since I was young, I've always been a deep thinker. I'd get in trouble for being disrespectful to my parents and cruel to my siblings if they were illogical
-I looooove formal debate because I get to get to the root of a problem and annihilate it without people feeling hurt. I dislike debating about people's personal ideas because 1) I don't want to hurt them but more often 2) I don't want to be rejected for my ideas and worldview
-interested in topics like history, philosophy, lit, politics, economics, psychology, ect
-I have a hard time sharing how I feel or what I am thinking and I hate unloading my problems on people
-I feel like I live for the future but I don't think about it very much. I'm always looking forward to the future, especially my years of higher education and then my family. However, it also scares me a little to think that I might not have my same friends
-I am pretty ambitious academically. If I want to learn something or if I am intellectually curious about something, I will pursue it aggressively
-I hate exerting myself physically so I exhaust myself, but I can easily forget to feed myself, rest, ect if I am doing something I love. I am good at things like sewing and cooking or any physical thing where I am not actually focusing on my body. Like soccer- if it engages me mentally I don't care so much about tiring myself
Lol. Wow. That's enough for now. If you have questions, feel free to ask me. Hopefully this will be enough to make it pretty clear to you what I am. *sighs*