What i realised, is a lot of these people aren't only angry at you, they've had a shitty day, their kids are being dicks, or some other problem is happening and suddenly a voice on the end of the phone to a 'company' becomes the outlet to their rage.
Ok to bring in an extreme example: child abuse, even if the parent is having a hard time in life, do you think it's justified to abuse the child? that's the type of situation i'm talking about mostly.
yeah, well, ofcourse not. That's like the biggest no for anyone with a minimal ethical framework. But those kind of situations are really deeply rooted in people and depend on a lot of things in the realm of their own psychology and possibly intelligence. Besides, a matter like child abuse, really isn't just about being rude to someone anymore. That's a felony and has more to do with psychopathology than average social behavior.
that's why i prefaced with extreme example
yeah you did.
People who've had it hard themselves are the first ones imo who should know better when dealing with others.
We know everyone does that, that's not what I'm asking. I'm asking is it justified?Eh, this is kind of hard, I don't think I can vote. I'm conflicted.
Cause I don't think it's right, but I don't know anyone that doesn't do that in some way or another, including myself. So it just, is what it is. We are all in our own little worlds. Some more than others. And really if you think about it, if we are just being us, the way we were made, then we kind of are just doing what we're designed to do. Our egos are designed to protect us. So how can I say that it's really wrong....? It's like saying nature is wrong.
There's always a reason behind someone's actions anyways. And some actions are just less preferred.
We know everyone does that, that's not what I'm asking. I'm asking is it justified?
Yeah. When I ask to be left alone, nicely, clearly, and repeatedly, and this person continues to pursue mindless engagement with me, I feel justified in saying "please just fucking stop bothering me, damnit." Not that that worked. That ENFP laughed and was even more eager to interact with me.
It's hard to say though. Cause that's asking someone to make a decision about other people, in which we can really never know anything about.
It's just like saying Cindy shouldn't eat ice cream cause it's bad. I don't know what's best for Cindy though. All I know is that I shouldn't eat ice cream.
I think I'm the type of person that thinks things happen for a reason. And whatever happens is meant to happen.
So my answer is I don't know for others. But for my actions, it's probably a no.
Ok so if someone's parent died or they got fired from a job, nothing that effects their brain it's sometimes justified to be an asshole to someone that is minding their own business?
No. I try as hard as I can not to do it, and I expect the same from others (I understand this expectations may be excessive and I'm willing to concede a slight bit of bitchiness, but no more). It's really one of the typical behaviors that, when allowed, will just make you a punching bag for other people's negative feelings.
Well Justifiable homicide exists...
That would make justifiable rudeness pretty much a no brainer.