I agree, there's potential for an INTP to become a snob or to be perceived that way. As one matures, one realizes the uniqueness of their intellectual position in the world and that the world is not always ready for their brilliant ideas. I think most will eventually learn how to meet their need for 'quality' social interactions by blending-in without losing themselves in the process; yes, like a chameleon.
As for me, I am most attracted to my intellectual, emotional, and spiritual equal. I can't speak for the other girls here. It seems logical to me that INTP women would be most attracted to their equals (if not greater than themselves as far as intelligence goes); making T look very attractive in the opposite sex. That's something for the OP to consider, if he's a hardcore feeler boy.
As most of you have probably already noticed, the OP's intentions aren't clear; meaning, it's hard to tell if this is a conquest or genuine interest. Any sign of hidden agenda is going to be a turn-off; regardless of sex or type. My advice is to relax, be yourself; hopefully that's a gentleman. If there's mutual admiration, then things will evolve naturally. Getting in a hurry, over-analyzing her every move, and trying to be something you're not, are all of the ingredients for failure.