Fack.
Okay guys thanks for your input. Could someone explain to me in a bit more detail why my Fi dom would be so appealing?
Everyone's different of course blah blah blah and so on, but...
Feeling, for an INTJ, is or isn't the key to action. We can think up a great amount of stuff, and that's pretty fun by itself, but it is introverted and meant to be done alone. And by ourselves we can engage well enough with the world as it is. But... if there is any kind of second party--a friend, a colleague, a person with a project of any kind--then feeling is the important gatekeeper and tells us whether to engage or disengage. If feeling is not being validated, or is being invalidated, chances are we'll shut up shop and take off for parts unknown.
The pitfall, the waiting black hole, the worthless void into which he must fall: feeling without action.
Sitting around feeling pleasant is not intended to be a permanent state for an INTJ. Sitting around and feeling comfortable being alone is okay. But sitting around with other people and ultimately doing nothing other than being validated causes an unexpected and pernicious kind of soul rot.
"I feel like I should be doing something"
"Then you should do, I don't care."
"I'd really like to start a [insert plan]"
"That's nice. How do you feel about it?"
"I feel shit, c'mon, I want to get started."
"So start already."
"Fine, whatever. I'm going to play video games."
Nothing good from this can come. Two I's sitting around the house together. It'll work if you both have your own outside sources of motivation to keep on accomplishing what you want to accomplish.